I have been dating my girlfriend for two months now....she tells me she has never had an orgasm. Everytime we fool around (being oral or fingering) as soon as she gets close she stops me from fufilling her needs. Someone please help me with ideas on how we can overcome this problem. I've tried explaining to her that becase she stops me it makes me feel as if she is uncomfortable with me (but it also makes me feel inadequate ya know?). Any tips? I really want to please her!
Sat, 04/24/2004 - 14:13
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She keeps stopping me near orgasm
I agree that she could be overwhelmed by her feelings and not knowing what to fully expect. Orgasm can be very different from mastrubation and having it with a partner.
Also I remember having this need to pee so bad when I first started having orgasms that I would often stop myself. Explain to her that the feeling to pee passes and the orgasm is so worth it. Do it on a towel and reasure that there is no wrong way to orgasm and you are supportive no matter what.
some girls do that b/c they are overwhelmed and scared of the feelings of an orgasm.
since she's never had one she isn't sure what to expect.
maybe if she masturbated and gave herself an orgasm she would be more familiar and less overwhelmed.
have you asked her why she makes you stop?
is it too intense? does it hurt?
trying to talk it out w/ her should help.