Ok, my new gf is going to give head for the first time this weekend. I asked her is she swallows and she said NO! She said she tried it once wit her ex and she dont like it. This is a huge disapointment to me. Now i have to run to the bathroom or have a cloth ready.
Any sugjestions on making her confortable with swallowing? i know its never good idea to force her or drag it on.
Anyone you guys know of any girls that didnt like swallowing but eventually liked it? If so how did they staret liking it?
Update!.
She blew me and she swallowed! Now, she was scraping a lil bit during the process and it was unconfortable. How do i bring up that "subject" w/out hurting her feelings? What can i tell her to change her scraping issues w/out not wanting to do it ever again
if she dosnt like it, then dont force her. ask her if she is ok with you giving her a money shot some where. if not get over it
Don't ask her to swallow. Just take your time cleaning up afterwards - long enough for her to lose interest in anything further. Then just say "thanks".
Move on to something else. Why? Because trying it once means nothing. Trying it three times - you have to make sure - then she can give it up if she still doesn't like it. Do this stall twice. See what she says. Then get back with us.
If after three tries, then you can get over it if her answer remains no.
I agree. Once in not enough to form a valid opinion of liking or not liking this activity. Why?
a. if she did not like the taste, and,
b. if it was difficult to get down, then...
she likely does not know that by taking a sip of water, soda, or other liquid (even saliva) will help it go down.
Lastly, make sure she raises either the top of her tongue or the tip to the roof of her mouth in order to keep the semen from flying too far back and possibly triggering a gag reflex.
If after doing this she does not like it, then you just have to accept her decision as final.
Be glad she performs the extraction; after that, it is hers to do with as she may.
Hm.. I would never swallow any guy's cum unless..
i loved him
felt incredibly comfortable with him
wanted to please him and knew that swallowing would be pleasing him
As for my current boyfriend i swallow... for all the following apply (love, comfort, pleasing)
If you're not in love and its just basically "messing around"
Not much you can do but be glad she's even giving you head
Please learn to be a little more considerate
I understand you want her to and all you can do is say well can you try it once with me
That was him and this is me, maybe you will like mine and say if it still does not appeal to you then thats fine but just try it with me
If she doesn't want to, there isn't much you can do about it. Maybe she'll change her mind at some point in the future as your relationship progresses. Look at it this way, at least she's willing to go down on you...even if she won't swallow.
I raised this question a few years ago and never received a real answer: What is the big deal with a woman "swallowing?" We get it out of you guys, and that is where the pleasure is, so, how does it feel different whether we swallow, drool onto a tissue or spit across the room?
It is a psychological thing about "accepting" and "liking him enough" as well as the phsyical feeling about being sucked/drained. Or so I am informed. I can understand it in a way since some men enjoy drinking my ejaculate - their own version of swallowing.
> It is a psychological thing about "accepting" and "liking him enough"
I agree. The psychological need for (complete) acceptance seems more pronounced in young boys/men than with more mature, confident, and worldly individuals.
Secondly, for those couples not yet having intercourse, swallowing is a way to meld one with the other. I do not believe it is as emotional as when the psyches join during intercourse, although, as a substitute it t'aint half bad.
What I see as a problem is the blow to the fella's self esteem and worth within the relationship when a woman refuses to "take all of him" for whatever reason. This is where maturity comes to the rescue.
If it's the first time blowing you-sounds as though she blew someone else once- you might not want to insist on swallowing at the beginning. I would suggest you tell her that not swallowing is fine. Then if you can get her to continue giving BJs you can ease her into swallowing. The women I have known who would swallow have all told me that they try to take it as far back into the mouth as possible so when and if you convince her to swallow you might suggest that.
Personally I find being swallowed a nice compliment, but I don't feel the need for it. In the mouth ,yes or it's not really a blowjob, and she can just let it dribble out the side. That looks so cute and sexy too!. You can have some sort of wipe nearby. If you are like me you will find it emotionally unpleasant to see and hear someone spitting your semen out so you might want to talk to her about the dribbling thing.
I wish you well. Most women will not even give a blow job, so if she has agreed to even try you are ahead in the game. At least that's what people tell me everytime I ask a question about how to get my wife to improve her BJ skills.
Update!.
She blew me and she swallowed! Now, she was scraping a lil bit during the process and it was unconfortable. How do i bring up that "subject" w/out hurting her feelings? What can i tell her to change her scraping issues
[QUOTE=Brandye;202680]I raised this question a few years ago and never received a real answer: What is the big deal with a woman "swallowing?" We get it out of you guys, and that is where the pleasure is, so, how does it feel different whether we swallow, drool onto a tissue or spit across the room?[/QUOTE]
its great when women get it out of us but what i mena is that some women dont want it newhere near thier mouths. For instance, i just a blow job in my car and the women dont swallow, where do i let it go???? By swallowing i meant taking it in the mouth and not having to use a tissue or something. sometimmes theres nothing around to use, what do u do??
[QUOTE=PistolSmoke;202804]its great when women get it out of us but what i mena is that some women dont want it newhere near thier mouths. For instance, i just a blow job in my car and the women dont swallow, where do i let it go???? By swallowing i meant taking it in the mouth and not having to use a tissue or something. sometimmes theres nothing around to use, what do u do??[/QUOTE]
You make sure that YOU bring a tissue or something if you want a blow job. You can't just be like, "Well, I didn't bring anything to put it in, so you're just going to have to swallow". That won't work.
Well, if women do not want it anywhere near their mouths, they will not be sucking on you. That is a different matter.
Again I ask, what difference does it make to you? If she takes you in her mouth, she better have a plan.
BTW, STDs can be transferred orally as well as genitally. Do you think this may make some women hesitate?
Brandye, now that you mention STDs I have been wondering since the mid 1980s if concern about HIV is the reason that so many women won't give a BJ.
[QUOTE=dlb;202846]Brandye, now that you mention STDs I have been wondering since the mid 1980s if concern about HIV is the reason that so many women won't give a BJ.[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure that unless a woman has an open wound in, or around her mouth, it's damn near impossible to get HIV from giving a BJ. But I know that herpes and gonorrhea, among others, can fairly easily be spread through oral.
[QUOTE=cjb1981;202862]I'm pretty sure that unless a woman has an open wound in, or around her mouth, it's damn near impossible to get HIV from giving a BJ. But I know that herpes and gonorrhea, among others, can fairly easily be spread through oral.[/QUOTE]
Really? I have always read that swallowing semen was sure way of getting it.
[QUOTE=dlb;202863]Really? I have always read that swallowing semen was sure way of getting it.[/QUOTE]
Well, I'm definitely NOT anyone who has ANY medical training WHAT SO EVER...so don't do anything based on the info that I gave you. But, I've read that saliva begins to break down the virus on contact. Then when it gets to the stomach, stomach acid will kill just about anything, including HIV.
It is not the stomach you have to worry about. The acid in there can kill you let alone HIV - it is SERIOUS stuff. The problem is the tissues of the mouth and throat etc. these can easily become infected by an STD.
why does it matter if she gets you off why does she "have" to swallow? I kinda think it is a power trip if you feel that she needs to do this for you to feel better, not you specifically just men in general. Doesnt it feel good to have your penis in her mouth? Alot of people wont even do that. Just an opinion, something to think about......
for the record that wasnt meant to sound bitchy but i know reading, it can sound different.