well... I have a quick question for all of you.. I have had this girlfriend for just over a month and we have been very experimental.. but for some odd reason she wont let me do oral on her.. i have been able to finger her.. touch her anywhere i want to.. we have had sex and this is pretty much the only thing we cant do.. i just want to be able to pleasure her like that.. what are your opinions and ideas??
Sat, 10/14/2006 - 01:11
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She doesnt want oral on her
This is a pretty personal activity. I would let your relationship mature a couple of more months. There are trust issues, as well as self esteme and self confidence matters that may also be a part of why she is not yet ready.
her excuse is.. why would anyone want to have that taste in their mouth?? I couldnt come up with a response to that right away..
If she is not yet preforming oral stimulation on you then you may be in for a disappointing journey to Nirvana because her mucus and our "juices" are all an acquired taste.
What she fails to understand is that it is not about the taste, it is about the closeness that this brings to a couple as well as the very intense sensations that oral and/or a handjob provide the recipient. The giver also gets some very emotional boosts from all this as well.
As a response to her question, tell her to just try it once, and you will guarentee she'll like it. The majority of women I would say love men going down on them, they get better sensations from it than intercourse most of the time. (From things I've read)
Morbid you are right,my wife absolutely love's oral.
If she doesn't want it, she doesn't want it. Never force someone into something they don't want to do, especially when it comes to sex.
You can always try a compromise. Allow her to do something to you you may not want, or have you do something to her you may not want to do but she would love you to do, and then you do oral on her.
thetease I wasn't meaning force it, just try and talk her into it and promise she will like it, because she probably would. I being 16, I know not to try and force anything sexually on girls, because at this age the majority of them think sex is wrong or nasty. Just gotta know how to explain it to them.
I stand by my first two replies; although, two months is probably not nearly enough time.
You can explain all this to her, yet until she is older and wiser, you may be talking to deaf ears. Wait.
thank you all for the responses and opinions and suggestions.. they are all good and hopefully it all works out in the end..
[QUOTE=ineedsdahelp;154467]well... I have a quick question for all of you.. I have had this girlfriend for just over a month and we have been very experimental.. but for some odd reason she wont let me do oral on her.. i have been able to finger her.. touch her anywhere i want to.. we have had sex and this is pretty much the only thing we cant do.. i just want to be able to pleasure her like that.. what are your opinions and ideas??[/QUOTE]
I had the same problem man!
My girlfriend said she has a phoebia about it. I've done it twice to her now though, she's still un easy about it but as long as i dont do it much she doesnt mind. It got better the more she trusted me. I'm gonna try make her feel more comfortable, I want her to cum from my tongue.
juss lick her body starting at the boobs and work your way down there
well.. i think we are getting there.. i mean the trust between us is very strong and over the past week has grew tremendously.. so i think the start from the top and work my way down doesnt sound like such a bad idea.. maybe she wont put her hands in the way this time?? i actually talked to her about it.. and she seemed a little more open to the idea.. but we havent tried it... yet.. *crosses fingers*
[QUOTE=ineedsdahelp;154467]well... I have a quick question for all of you.. I have had this girlfriend for just over a month and we have been very experimental.. but for some odd reason she wont let me do oral on her.. i have been able to finger her.. touch her anywhere i want to.. we have had sex and this is pretty much the only thing we cant do.. i just want to be able to pleasure her like that.. what are your opinions and ideas??[/QUOTE]
Geez, dude. One freakin' month and you expect her to be spread eagled for you.
To demand to be that sexually involved in a few weeks amounts to nothing more than a prolonged booty call. Why don't you focus on some "nonsexual" intimacy with her for awhile so she won't feel like a slut?
[QUOTE=ua322;154756]Geez, dude. One freakin' month and you expect her to be spread eagled for you.
To demand to be that sexually involved in a few weeks amounts to nothing more than a prolonged booty call. Why don't you focus on some "nonsexual" intimacy with her for awhile so she won't feel like a slut?[/QUOTE]
spoken like a true gentleman!!...RESPECT...take things easy..:)
actually.. if you ask her she will say i am a true gentleman.. and as for only being a month.. that was a decision that we both made and both dont regret a bit.. as for feeling like a slut.. she is far from that and i doubt she feels any where close to that..
[QUOTE=ineedsdahelp;154773]actually.. if you ask her she will say i am a true gentleman.. and as for only being a month.. that was a decision that we both made and both dont regret a bit.. as for feeling like a slut.. she is far from that and i doubt she feels any where close to that..[/QUOTE]
Suffice it to say that, after only one month, if she doesn't feel comfortable with being spread eagled with your head between her thighs then I don't see that as a "problem". I've known girls who didn't feel comfortable even kissing in one month.
Just give her some time to get comfortable with the idea and focus on something else in the meantime.
And by the way, some girls never do get to a point where they like receiving oral.
thank you ua322 good stuff to know
She just needs time to get comfortable, as everyone has previously said. You critisize on him being a gentlemen or not... I myself have a high sex drive, and a very nice guy to girls, very gentlemen like. I tell girls before I date them that I have a high sex drive, and I don't expect anything from them, but it will be something I want in my relationship at some point. I can't stand to be with a girl and not be physically active with her in some way.
i have been hearing that from a lot of people.. and personally i agree with it.. so im going to have to say thank you morbid.. that is some solid advice and i think we are very much alike.. in this case anyways..
If her main concern is how it will taste, has she tried tasting it herself? It's really not that bad (I think), and at least knowing firsthand will let her know what you're getting into, haha. If she still doesn't want to inflict it upon you, she could try eating goodly amounts of pineapple and citrus fruits for a few days before you try it--girls' diets change the taste of their secretions, and those foods are generally agreed to make the taste more pleasant.
I think it's great that you want to try this with her, though, and I hope she realizes how sweet it is that you want to try something that could conceivably be a little "gross" for you in order to please her.
that is exactly how i feel.. it wouldnt be her that would be tasting it.. and personally i enjoy the taste.. but im not doing this for me... im doing it for her.. i may have to mention the whole citrus fruit thing if that will make her a little more up for the idea.. who knows.. im in for anything
My girlfriend now likes me going down on her. Do it to her when she's drunk, she might be up for it then. That's what I did.
[QUOTE=Sirene;155071]My girlfriend now likes me going down on her. Do it to her when she's drunk, she might be up for it then. That's what I did.[/QUOTE]
Nothing says "I love you" like drunken oral sex. ;)
I sincerely hope that was a joke...
What's wrong with drunken oral sex?
Personal preference I guess. It seems like it would cheapen the experience.
[QUOTE=Ratach;170403]Personal preference I guess. It seems like it would cheapen the experience.[/QUOTE]
Hell no. Drunken sex is the best. I love ****ing my girl when we're both blind drunk.
Yep, eating citrus-y fruits and avoiding dairy and meat make everyone taste better. Girls and boys!
If you sip on some pineapple juice before you go down on someone, it makes them taste really sweet.
Yes, but the sugar that gets left in your saliva can cause problems down there...