My girlfriend cums quite fast when she's ontop then gets finds it hard to carry on.

We just roll over so Im ontop and carry on :D

Shift the workload.

Not a problem if she can have more than one orgasm!
Multi-orgasmic women have MORE FUN!

Another thing you could try is after her orgasm build in some stops...like change the cd or fill the water glass or just have her give you oral till she recoups a little then.....bam another orgasm as soon as you start "messin" with her.

As I read your message, there seems to be two concerns; first, that she climaxes quickly and easily; second, that once she does, she finds it hard to continue for an encore. Is this correct?

Frankly, I think it is wonderful that she finds it so easy to work up a climax by whatever method. I believe she should consider this more a feather in her cap than a rock in her shoe. Most women find that an orgasm requires time and (conscious) effort to achieve. I write a lot about the importance of couples taking their time and for guys not to gloss over or rush past all the necking and petting that should precede foreplay.

Women in general find it much easier to have multiple orgasms than guys. The typical female of the species can have many and in rather quick succession; whereas the typical male (depending primarily on age) can only achieve three or perhaps four in a row and then with a recovery time somewhere between ten and thirty minutes rather than the moments a woman waits between any two.

Premature Ejaculation is common among boys and young men up to their mid twenties and two methods work well for controlling this regardless of age. One is the "Squeeze" technique, the other is a training exercise that I recommend that helps train a guy to recognize those sensations that preceed an orgasm--and then to train his conscious mind to "wake up" out of its euphoria and bliss enough to pause the action until the sense of urgency subsides.

Although I have never read about the latter being applied to women, I do not see why it cannot be. While her situation may not be the equivelent of PE, the ability for her to achieve more control will share the same fix. There is a caveat, however. From all that I have read, women tend not to enjoy a lot of starts and stops along the road to their orgasms. This certainly is the case when trying to trigger an orgasm. Shame on him who stops the proceedings at this critical time in the name of prolonging making love!

Whether your girlfriend's main concern is with the ease at which she can orgasm, or, a lack of control over them, perhaps a solution would be for the two of you to do the training exercise. You can do an advanced search using my name and any of these key words: PE, Premature Ejaculation, benchmark, urgency. The purpose for doing the training exercise is so that she can learn to recognize those feelings that immediately preceed her orgasms and then to be able to pause the action just long enough to curb the sense of urgency.

> Basically, she wanted me to find out if there was anyway she could curb this or if she needs to start listening to me and realise that I really don't give a monkeys.

This is a concern of importance to her. That it is only of incidental importance to you is probably not going to reduce her angst or make her feel better overall. Although your heart is in the right place, I believe she will feel much better about all this when she learns how to achieve control over when to have an orgasm and when to hold it at bay for a while longer.

My girlfriend seems to be the same way. She can only have sex for about five or ten minutes and then orgasms and can't go on anymore. The problem is I last too long. I have only come one time with her. And that is when she is on top and held in like three orgasms( It seems i can only ever come close is when she is on top of me.)
She tries to hold it in but it never works. I think i can only come during sex when she is on top and is constantly moving.
Are there any other tips out there that could help me?

Haha I have been wondering this too, my girlfriend cums quick and then has trouble with it. Lucky for me, she has become okay going after finishing, but she does begin to lose lubrication after a while.

I also last a long time, but I have learned that it is easiest to finish in the Deck chair position, with her hips elevated and squeezed.

As far as cumming quickly. My girlfriend also finds it embarassing, and it does bother her. Have you tried going slow, like just tantalizing her with a few deep thrusts and then shallow and just with a few start and stops throughout. Basically try to go slow while building yourself up and keeping her below climax. And then after you get close. Finish...that way she wont be embarassed and wont feel "out of the mood" since you will both be done.

After she orgasms, do not stop just slow down and move to another area/stimulus point and keep it rolling. She has to relax, continue to breathe properly and just roll with it. Really, she can do this multiple orgasm thing, guys, there will be more orgasms - all she has to do is go with it. Add lubricant as necessary. There is NOTHING to be embarassed about orgasming quickly and easily - in fact, that's EXCELLENT!! One orgasm is NOT enough!!!

What do you mean, move to another area/stimulus point?

CLitoris to G-Spot to posterior fornix and back again -didn't you study anatomy??

My girlfriend doesn't like clitoral stimulation. she says it tickles and doesn't want me to do it. And i can never tell where my penis is inside of her.

Just gotta experiment. I mean Im not sure, but Im guessing I know exactly where my girlfriends g-spot is. (and it is very close to the entrance for her if thats what it is) I also found where the fornix is, or well the spot for her.

Have her tell you when your hitting a spot, then trying to remember where it is in relation to the feeling on your penis (ie halfway, all the way, just around the head etc)

The 'tickling' it a FALSE signal - haven't we told you guys this before? - once she orgasms, she'll learn that it is a signal that an orgasm is about to happen. Breathe, relax, and let it come!

Tickling, discomfort, and so on - are the brain's way of dealing with new sensations that threaten to overload the system. It is possible to become used to this new level of stimulation but she has to do it and go through it to get to the new level.

Ive tried for so long to get her to orgasm from clitoral stimulation. I've tried indirect stimulation, stroking the shaft of it, tounge, finger. It all comes out the same way. she shakes, throws off my hand, head, etc and says she doesn't like it because it tickles too much.

What else should i try?

Body worship with 'heavy hand' as in "stroking the bones".

You may want to consider the whole building up both of your excitement so that when you actually proceed on to IC, you will both climax very quickly. Have her go down on you, play with your body and get you riled up and on the verge of climaxing! When you enter her, you will both be able to climax, and maybe even at the same time.