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she can only orgasm from missionary...

I'm new to sex. Just started having sex with my gf a couple of months back. We are extremely attracted to eachother and have great chemistry but I fear we may be somewhat sexually incompatible.

I have about a 7 1/2-8 in. x 6 1/2-3/4 in. penis and I think she may be a little on the small side. She says it feels best to her during missionary but anytime we try something else where I try to put her legs higher and mount her she says it's too much and it hurts. Same thing when I go from behind most times. I want to try something different and I like going really deep into her but anytime I go deep or hard in any position besides missionary she tells me to stop. Any suggestions for positions that might work for us both besides missionary?

She says that missionary stimulates the upper portion of her insides better and that's the only way she can orgasm. She's orgasmsed from behind but with manual stimulation on her part. I want to make her orgasm from solely intercourse in another position besides missionary if that's possible.

thanks

Well, she can have orgasms! About a quarter of women do not have that pleasure. You two are evidently early in your sexual career. It takes a while to learn and adjust to one another.

We each have favorite positions and you have evidently found hers. There are many other things to do and the two of you need to continue exploration and esperimentation.

If you are fearful of becoming bored after only a few months, do both of you a favor and break it off. How many of your mates are getting laid regularly?

[QUOTE=trc4;229729]I'm new to sex.

[color=blue]You are also new to this site. Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.[/color]

Just started having sex with my gf a couple of months back. We are extremely attracted to each other and have great chemistry but I fear we may be somewhat sexually incompatible.

[color=blue]"Incompatible?" How, personality-wise? Sexually? While it is possible for a person to be incompatible sexually, more often than not this happens when there is not the "chemistry" you say the two of you have. So, what is it then? More often than not what the two of you have is a lack of education in the ways of Eros {making love). We can help. We wish all new members of our community read the Board Notices section at the top of the main screen.

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

There you will find the Index that lists many helpful how-to articles. The first article I recommend is:

INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping(plus the G-spot and Making Out)

Please read the section:
Gals Specifically-

In part what you need to know is that there are very few sexual positions that provide the constant and ongoing contact between her genitals and your pubic mound to generate the required friction. So, what a knowledgeable, skilled, caring, compassionate, lover will do is to reach around and stimulate the clitoris by hand. Doing so also pretty much guarantees that you will get it right because a deft finger can more quickly and easily react to her responses. [/color]

I have about a 7 1/2-8 in. x 6 1/2-3/4 in. penis and I think she may be a little on the small side. She says it feels best to her during missionary but anytime we try something else where I try to put her legs higher and mount her she says it's too much and it hurts. Same thing when I go from behind most times. I want to try something different and I like going really deep into her but anytime I go deep or hard in any position besides missionary she tells me to stop. Any suggestions for positions that might work for us both besides missionary?

[color=blue]Make certain both of you are well lubricated. Just because she is producing a lot of mucus does not mean it is distributed well; therefore, spread some around the vaginal opening. As for your penis, liberally apply a lubricant to the shaft and head.

When trying any position, proceed slowly using pressure. Do not poke, shove, or jab, the penis into the vaginal vault. She should be very aroused. Wait until she indicates she is ready before entering. She can signal you verbally, or, by motioning you. Later, as you become better in tune with one another, you can use the technique of "Implied Consent". IC is described in one or more articles listed in the Index. You can also do an advanced search using my name.[/color]

She says that missionary stimulates the upper portion of her insides better and that's the only way she can orgasm. She's orgasmsed from behind but with manual stimulation on her part. I want to make her orgasm from solely intercourse in another position besides missionary if that's possible.

thanks[/QUOTE]

It is possible with a few positions, although, not all. Please read the article. It's not all about the penis; making love is about connectivity of the psyches and arousal. Orgasms are about technique and using multiple parts of the body (including fingers, tongue, hand, lips) to bring about the desire results.

Lastly, we do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve theirs. We do this by providing each other with feedback {verbal or non-verbal) on how we are responding to his/her caresses and for what we need now/next.

You also have to remember that SHE is relatively new at this as well. Just as many women as men have no idea of what they are truly capable. She may have it ingrained into her head that this is the only way she can orgasm. That may or may not be true but just the limit of her knowledge thus far.

What concerns me is her "negative" attitude to trying any sort of expansion of her "talents". This might be what you meant by 'incompatible'.

But you have a problem in that you think sex is about 'positions' - it isn't.
Please read and do what is outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program. When Doc speaks about 'connectivity' this is what he means - sex is about nuance, passion and paying attention to your partner and his/her responses and desires - it is not about positions, going deep, et al.

By doing what is outlined in the The Program, you will 'cure' both her hesitancy and your lack of subtlety.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;229748]You also have to remember that SHE is relatively new at this as well. Just as many women as men have no idea of what they are truly capable. She may have it ingrained into her head that this is the only way she can orgasm. That may or may not be true but just the limit of her knowledge thus far.

What concerns me is her "negative" attitude to trying any sort of expansion of her "talents". This might be what you meant by 'incompatible'.

But you have a problem in that you think sex is about 'positions' - it isn't.
Please read and do what is outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program. When Doc speaks about 'connectivity' this is what he means - sex is about nuance, passion and paying attention to your partner and his/her responses and desires - it is not about positions, going deep, et al.

By doing what is outlined in the The Program, you will 'cure' both her hesitancy and your lack of subtlety.[/QUOTE]

Our intimacy and level of mental/emotional compatibility is what comes most natural to both of us. I'm worrying about positions because we have already established a solid relationship with much open communication. This sort of connection is what most people look for but never find. That's something that neither of us struggle with. We are completely vulnerable to one another many different aspects.

She's almost 8 years older than I am and has had much more sexual experience. I'm trusting her knowledge mostly at this point as I am the only one new to this. However, we are both new to each other so that may have some bearing on the situation.

Please read the article listed in the Index about "experience".

You have some important information: She is relatively experienced and somewhere along the way she has determined what works best or easiest. If you have such a close and intimate attachment, you can certainly discuss this to a mutually satisfactory conclusion.

True - so don't ask us - talk to her!