I have been seeing a girl for awhile and we don't use condoms (she is on the pill). Unless we can clean up properly I will generally just pull out and she will swallow. But not matter how many times we do it, (once did it 3 times while crashing at a friends house and she lost track of how many times she came.) She will be clawing at my zipper for more. As much as I would love to say it is from my incredibly sexual abilities, I have noticed she seems satisfied when I cum inside her. I've even gone so far as to just cum inside her (as a finisher to a blow job or handjob) and she will simply roll over and go right to sleep perfectly happy!
Now my question for you ladies. Do you ever feel this way? I mean do you guys feel more satisfied after your lover ejaculates in you? Or do you not care where it ends up? In all my relationships/hook ups, I have never really experienced this. Usually for them having an orgasm leaves them satisfied...or have several leaves them satisfied. Not having a me ejaculate in them.
Or should I just marry this girl since I have found someone who even if I had a case of P.E. would be completely happy lol
Brandye, you are really making me want to experience this! Sadly, I can't. :( I think I would be truly satisfied with my sex life if I could enjoy the bliss you are describing.
Yes,i never feel that i am fully satisfied unless my partner ejaculates inside me.It does make you feel like he has left a part of him inside you after the deed has been completed.I used to love it when my husband came inside me,on those rare occasions that i really enjoyed our lovemaking.
Brandye I am glad I could present u with a question that allowed u to go into such detail. I totally understand the "as one" aspect. The way you state it was....well perfect. I never really could espress the way I felt when having sex without a condom. Yes it feels better yet something about being inside a woman. Being completely sorrounded by her most intimate parts and giving part of myself to her that she will have for a while (semen) makes me aroused and...well speechless. (Maybe I am a romantic haha)
I never knew the little tid bits (such as absorbing it and women sometimes tasting it) that was interesting. Thank you for all your responses everyone.
Ducy,
You started my thinking and here is a more complete explanation of why we like the semen “where it belongs.” This may sound a bit clinical but it becomes very romantic. Completed sex usually ends with the man ejaculating about 1 tablespoon of semen (sixty percent semen from the vas deferens, thirty percent fluid from the prostate and ten percent sperm from the testicles) into the depths of our vaginas. As discussed here so often nearly half of this drains out. That means a bit more than a teaspoon of male fluids with 100 million sperm drains into that crack from the coccyx to the pubic bone allowing sperm to swim free and explore other entrances they may find. And aromatically remind us in the morning as we sit on the loo what we did last night.
That still leaves a few hundred million sperm and more than half a tablespoon of semen inside us. What happens to that? The millions of sperm swim haphazardly around our vagina, through the cervical os, into the uterus, up our fallopian tubes and out into our abdominal cavities. These will live in there for four days or slightly more, some exiting on their own but most swimming randomly exploring our innards. The semen is absorbed through the mucosa of the vagina and enters the bloodstream. Women have reported tasting semen twenty minutes or so after vaginal sex. The protein will be used by our muscles, as any other protein we ingest, becoming a part of our musculature. Whilst not detectable in any common test, there will be semen in our blood for up to two days.
In the two years I lived with my fiancé, he was always a part of me; I loved that. Much of the mourning after his death surrounded the fact that he could never become part of me again. There is something romantic about being a woman and possessing our lover constantly. His semen is always in our blood; his sperm is always swimming inside of us. We are complete. And it only takes a couple ejaculations a week for this to be.
Although I have often stated my preference for woman lovers, this as described is something that keeps me coming back to men – a real penis (for which there is no replacement sliding into me) and the deposit left behind to become part of me. I stand by my original statement about performing my biological duty but the romanticism of becoming one, that only a woman experiences completes the picture.
Before any young women get the wrong idea, I did not experience this until long after I became active. Condoms and vaginal spermicide were the rules of my youth. I was emotionally unable to experience this along with not wanting to take the risk of pregnancy. It is beyond the physics of sex, which take long enough to learn, and into the metaphysical dimension.
RR this sounds exactly like her. The one time I happened to "miss" (a lil slow on the pull out and I wound up on the bed sheets) she seemed a little grumpy as if she was mad at the fact that she didn't get it anywhere on her. I thought I did something wrong, then she jumped me until she got what she wanted.
You are harking back to a thread of a few years ago in which I stated "men can be satiated without being satisfied; women can be satisfied without being satiated." In short, we can drain you dry and be ready for more but more commonly are satisfied with much less. Sometimes a wetness between our legs makes all the difference.
Yes, I feel short-changed, sometimes, when I do not get what belongs in me when he withdraws. The vagina has evolved, in all mammalians, with the single purpose of extracting semen from a penis. It is gratifying, at some level, to have performed my biologic duty. It is sometimes disappointing and feels somewhat incomplete if I finish him elsewhere even by my choice. There have been reported issues of reduced orgasmic capability in women whose partners have had vasectomies because they feel they do not get all they are due!
This not a physiological reaction. It is psychological though it has physiological implications. I can understand your g/f completely and suspect that other of the more mature women here will as well.
Thanks brandye! I must say I am more content with 1 orgasm inside of her rather than 3 or 4 where I have to pull out. I'm glad I have a partner who enjoys it just as much
I can totally relate to that! Ejaculation inside me makes the lovemaking complete! Makes me a very happy woman, sleeping like a baby with a smile on my lips :)
I don't know why exactly... I think it's about two things:
Part of it has to do with a smooth process. Making love is like music: rhythmically going from one tune to the next, all genres passing by. When listening and enjoying a soothing and melodious song that all the sudden stops right in the middle, starting in the middle of heavy metal song; that feels rather uncomfortable. Which is why I don't fancy the pulling out much. It feels like we're stopping somewhere in the middle... like unfinished business. The road towards his climax is just as important to me as climax itself. Pulling out means brutally interrupting. This leaves me hungry for more, in order to properly complete it. So; in order to ease out the transition from one act to another; if he does pull out, I'd rather finish him by bj/hj, than him masturbating to climax asap after pulling out. The bj/hj feels more like a continuation of the process between the two of us, which is why I prefer it. Still: the result is less harmonious music, leaving me (very) happy, but less satisfied than I could have been.
The other part has to do with receiving his ejaculate (like Brandye refers to). Cause even when the entire above process is complete, I must say that even ejaculation inside me inside a condom, doesn't do the entire trick... And if he rolls of me and ejaculates on his own stomach, I really feel terribly "empty" and like we didn't finish... :( No matter how many orgasms on my behalf preceded it (silly I know!) If I can't have it in me, I'd like to have it close to me (mouth/body). Though less satisfactory, I still receive it. Whereas him keeping it entirely to himself has even left me somewhat grumpy.
[QUOTE=Brandye;263584]I can understand your g/f completely and suspect that other of the more mature women here will as well.[/QUOTE]
More mature women? I wonder when that is... Let's say I've always been mature for my age... ;):D
due to some issues as a child I cant have children. So when I am with people I know are clean of STDs, I very much enjoy having them cum inside of me. I do feel far more sexualy satisfied after it is over. But that is not to say that I dont like cum in my mouth or on my body. I am a girl that enjoys variety as well. I suppose at the end of the day it comes down to what am I in the mood for today
Generally speaking, most women feel that men do not enjoy sex unless the men ejaculate. This is to confuse orgasm with ejaculation but that confusion is common in both men and women.
The truth is that men enjoy the intimacy, the sharing and caring, and the entire sexual interlude including cuddling, foreplay etc as women do. It just takes awhile before everyone realises this. Then everyone begins confusing sex and love.
A woman can be satisfied without being sexually satieted and vice versa. The satisfaction concerns the emotional component of sex. Sexually satieted concerns the physical component of sex.