Can't tell when (or if) I orgasm

[ruripanda]

I can't remember a time i could feel an orgasm. My boyfriend says he can tell because i "tense up" and become "more wet" but i can never feel if i do. Is there anything i can do to increase my sensitivity?

[funinthesun]

Welcome to the board!

Please read the stickies, especially those in the New to Sex section. The answer to your question and a lot more important information you should know is in there. You'll know when you do.

[Brandye]

I can assure you that if you do not know whether it has happened, your b/f has no idea. He is just trying to be the authority and make himself feel good. Follow fun's advice.

[dancingdoc2]

Here is a belated welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please familiarize yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.

There are several articles that discuss various aspects of the female climax and orgasm. Please take a few minutes and learn all you can about them as well as your physiology.

Unless and until you learn to masturbate and enjoy climaxes on your own, the chances are slim that you will have them at your boyfriend's hand. Why? Because you must connect the proverbial dots. Mother Nature has played a trick on all of us by giving us a pleasure center in the brain, all the millions of sensitive nerve endings, and, an autonomic nervous system to transmit signals back and forth, yet does not connect all of these together. This is what we must do ourselves. Practice, practice, practice. You will find out more when you read the article on how-to. The articles will be found in different places in the two-page Index.

Happy reading. After you do, please do not hesitate to ask questions should you have any.

-doc