im too tight for him

[alunai]

I had sex with a great guy for the first time the other night. It was absolutely amazing for me. It was quite literally the best sex I've ever experienced. However, although he enjoyed it too, there was one little issue: Me. He is rather girthy, and I'm so tight that it made it difficult for him to stay hard. It didn't bother me really, but it was frustrating for him. When I started to dry up, we used lubrication. So lubrication or lack thereof wasn't an issue.

I know that when I get feeling really good, I naturally tighten up even more. I don't know how to relax my vaginal muscles when I'm that turned on. All of his usual positions would make it worse.

I would love to get any advice regarding this. Tips on how to relax my vaginal muscles, and sex positions that will make it easier for us to have sex without him losing his hard-on. I am comforted in knowing that I am mind blowingly tight for him, but I want him to be able to stay hard enough to really enjoy it too.

[Brandye]

Not your problem. His. You are being considerate and as many women want to be the best for him.

Whatever position loosens you up the best. Try with your knees really high up. And try the various woman on top positions. The tightening will slowly disappear as you become accustomed to his girth. Consider that many of us are most receptive (relaxed; open) right after orgasm. If he brings you off first and then enters you will be at your most relaxed.

[funinthesun]

Brandye's got it. Girth is often an issue for me(and my partners), but it lessens over time. The best solution I've found is to get the woman to near orgasm without touching her vagina or clit then finally progressing to them and staying through an orgasm or two. One thing to be careful about - have him run a finger around inside for a moment before entering or have him enter only a small amount with small slow strokes getting progressively larger when starting out. With a larger girth it is more likely that you can crack/tear along small creases that haven't been lubricated yet due to the folds inside so those two techniques can prevent that.

Major benefit for you - he just has to give you multiple orgasms and drive you wild to have sex with you.

[den2k]

Try getting really wet and relaxed, use good positionsand try kegel exercises. I've got a similar problem, she is tight and i cannot enter. I'm trying exercises to harden my erection, in order to enanche penetration.