Uti?

[ninja]

so me and my gf had sex recently for the 1st time. Then a couple of weeks later like 3 i fingered her and rubbed her clit.

a day or 2 later she tells me that she feels like she has to pee and can only pee a little bit in drops. she also said there was like a brownish discharge/gunk or something down there. Also she is having her period ( i think she just started having her period the day i fingered her or a day or 2 afterward.

is this a urinary track infection or something? what is it? should she tell her mom and go to the doctor? we REALLY REALLY dont want her parents nor doc to find out we're having sex/or shes sexually active.

if she got a UTI could the doctor infer that she's been sexually active because its more common in sexually active ppl?

[2little]

does it hurt for her to pee? if so then it sounds like a UTI. I would suggest for her to go to the doc and just explain that she is having troubles peeing. she doesn't have to mention having sex unless of course he asks.
i am thinking that since it was the first time (wondering if very first time) she might just be freaking out. It happens to all girls the "first time". because they hear all the bad stuff of sex.

and she could talk to her mom and if she doesn't' want to tell her about the sex, she dosn't have to. just say "mom, i am having troubles going pee, i think i need to see a doctor"

[Cool]

How old is ur GF? I ask because she can go to the doc with you and ya'll can talk to the doc together. If you think you old enoght to have sex you can talk to a doc. Just tell the doc that you want the conversion to stay beween the two of you.

If she have to see the doc with a parent that's ok too do what 2little said. She can see the doc by herself and ask the doc to keep the conversion beweent them. Better safe than sorry.

[demonbuttercup]

Also.. remember to wash your hands good before engaging in any type of play. Hands are full of bacteria and you were rubbing them right on her urethra... which is below the clit.

[Brandye]

Women of all ages can develop urinary tract infections regardless of sexual activity. If it burns when she urinates or has a foul smell, it is most likely a uti. Urine specimen is all the doctor needs and nothing can be inferred from that regarding sexual activity. If the discharge is vaginal, then an exam may be in order. Doctors do not assume that the absence of the hymen indicates sex. Most women have worn them away with tampon use. The brown discharge was likely old blood that preceded her period.

If she is still uncomfortable when her period ends, she should see the doctor.