Getting my Tubes tied

[KMB]

Nuttychick: lol no I am not offended I agree she should shove off I appreciate her opinion but I don't want her to push me and I decide to wait because my boyfriend is 2 years younger then I am and is still in HS having a hard time no doubt.
I'm sure it was hard work taking care of a child but yet I'm sure it's worth it.


Doc: Thank You I am so glad I came on here cause I was really stuck on this decision and I appreciate your advice.



I think sometimes sadly my dad is more understanding then my mom

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by KMB

I think sometimes sadly my dad is more understanding then my mom

Thats good talk with your Dad...Let what your mother says "Go in one ear and out the other"


Really all the fears of being a mother came down to way I was raised... My mother was a real SHIT mother.. So I did have a good reason to prove her wrong that I would make a terrible mother...
lol Old bitch.. I showed her.

Not saying your mother is the same, just proving a point that sometimes a bad childhood can make you even more stronger and
more determined not to carry it on to future generations

[KMB]

yeah,

Haha that's great, I want to show my mom even though she has seen and heard me say and do bad things doesn't mean I'll do it with my kid.

I do have an anger problem and that makes me nervous a little.

My mom is pretty evil but is sweet also. But I don't want her pushing me on something that doesn't need to be done rea\lly.

[nuttychick]

Hunny we all do bad things it doesn't mean we will make terrible mothers..
lol to tell you the truth even to this day I don't like kids , cant tolerate them in my house and have no patience for them .. but my own 2 kids where different, Something just changes in you when you hold your baby in your arms the first time... You are still young do all the things you want to do before thinking of starting a family of your own or getting your tubes tied.....

Lol lucky you to have an Evil and sweet mum...Some just get the Evil lol

[dancingdoc2]

> maybe get an IUD instead of being on the pill?

I agree with nutty on this, at least look into one of the more reversible types. Over time it will be less expensive, with no muss no fuss no remembering to take the pill each day at a certain time--especially if you are traveling and crossing time zones!

[Alexxx]

No way should you do this! Sooner or later you will probably change your mind. BTW, I don't think your boyfriend's opinion should be considered. He's your boyfriend, that doesn't mean he's a love of your life.
When I was 18 I didn't want to have children ever. I wanted to get the best pleasures from this world and thought that children would prevent me from enjoying my life. I thought wrong! Children are the biggest joy in our lives! I don't have any yet, but I would love to.
Please, remember: children are our immortality.

[dancingdoc2]

Hi Alexxx,

Please give us some more information about why you replied by advising against the IUD. Longterm it seems to make more sense for some women than continuing on the pill or using some other contraceptive.

Thanks,
-doc

[lnt1103]

Well maybe I'm confused...I read Alex's post as against the ligation, not against the IUD.

I do have to disagree about the opinion that the boyfriend not be involved in the conversation. What if she decides at some point that yes indeed he IS the love of her life? You don't disinvite the person who holds that position in your life, out of that decision making process. It has as much to do with him as it does her.

[Cool]

Why don't you try IUD "intrauterine device" it can stop you from having a baby for 5-12 years. That way if you or your boyfriend changes your mind six years later you have the choice to have a kid. And you don't have to tak care of a kid your WHOLE life

Don't do the surgery for your parents and don't ,not do the surgery, for your boyfirend. Do it for yourself...

Originally Posted by KMB

I'm not sure if this is the right place to write this,

I'm thinking of getting my Fallopian Tubes tied, I know I'm still young and have so many years to think of this but me, my mom and my dad think it's a good idea. I mean I really don't see myself taking care of a kid my whole life and there will be kids around me in my life where I don't have to have full responsibility on taking care of a kid.

I'm a little nervous about this and I do want to get it done, but before I do I just want to make sure my boyfriend doesn't want kids.

and I am certainly not going to get the surgery done by my parent's choice.

I'm doing it for me.

[Cool]

You said in one post that you haven't had sex. Do u want to be married first? And is your boyfriend "the one"? If he is the one and he say he wants kids...what r u going to do?