Anal Tension in an experienced person?

[Rouge]

My partner and I regularly practice many forms of anal play. I've never had an issue before, but recently have found that each time we play in this way, I tense up and/or feel a burning sensation. My partner has noticed this more than I as he actually feels the tension, but it seems that whenever a finger or his cock or whatnot goes there I tense. I'm consciously focusing on relaxing, and don't feel myself tense! What could be the reasons behind this?

**Note: We use plenty of lube, go slowly, have worked up to this level, and stop if something hurts, so on and so on...

(hun, do you feel like putting up what you've noticed? thx)

[Brandye]

Your body is telling you something. There is a natural reaction of the anal sphincters to reject anything trying to gain admittance. They forma one-way valve. You overcame this autonomic reaction through care and trying. Now, however, it has kicked back in. I do not know why but your body does. It is the anal equivalent to secondary vaginismus and it will not easily be overcome.

Do a search on anal sex and find some of my posts on long term consequences.

[noirblanc]

Rouge, since you asked me to chime in... It may very well have to do with that unpleasant time a few weeks back. Your conscious may be telling you want it, while your subconscious remembers the pain/discomfort thus making your body react in a detrimental manner. I don't know?

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by Smivetterse

hello! I've been studying this forum for a while Thought i would introduce myself.

There are better places. Go study the intro please.

Anyways

Could a psychological issue cause the burning feeling as well? I can control the tightness a little (not much) but the burning is the part that gets to me.

[Brandye]

Rouge,

If you want to continue this issue, either pm me or start a new thread. You have one of the few valid issues posted recently.

[Rouge]

Is it possible to have this thread locked? It seems to be attracting ridiculous amounts of adverts.