Giving b/js

[oaktree]

Ok ladies, how many of you do not like giving B/J for what ever reasons. My wife hates it because of bad gag reflex. I guess i can live with any b/j.

[dancingdoc2]

How many ways are there to position yourself to have intercourse? There are different ways to engage in oral stimulation. There is nothing in the rule book that states swallowing or deep throat or letting semen fly inside the mouth is mandatory.

Many women will engage in oral stimulation yet not let a man ejaculate in her mouth, swallow semen, etc. Whatever her limitation is, we guys must abide by her decision.

There is an article on all this listed in the Index. I suggest that both of you read it because she may not know how to handle semen when it is ejaculated. If she reads the how-to information she may very well like full blown oral stimulation after learning how to accomplish the act. If she decides not to do it there is no reason why the two of you cannot enjoy oral stimulation up to the point of ejaculating inside w/o swallowing, or, up to the point where you ejaculate elsewhere.

So, I encourage the two of you to read the article:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

[oaktree]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

How many ways are there to position yourself to have intercourse? There are different ways to engage in oral stimulation. There is nothing in the rule book that states swallowing or deep throat or letting semen fly inside the mouth is mandatory.

Many women will engage in oral stimulation yet not let a man ejaculate in her mouth, swallow semen, etc. Whatever her limitation is, we guys must abide by her decision.

There is an article on all this listed in the Index. I suggest that both of you read it because she may not know how to handle semen when it is ejaculated. If she reads the how-to information she may very well like full blown oral stimulation after learning how to accomplish the act. If she decides not to do it there is no reason why the two of you cannot enjoy oral stimulation up to the point of ejaculating inside w/o swallowing, or, up to the point where you ejaculate elsewhere.

So, I encourage the two of you to read the article:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Well, she is not the type that will even let me ejaculate in her mouth or any where on her body except inside her.

[Brandye]

Exactly this question and many answers are on dozens of threads. Look around. As said so often, the primary service bought from prostitutes is oral sex by married men.

Several of us share our techniques for avoiding gagging.

[dancingdoc2]

> Well, she is not the type that will even let me ejaculate in her mouth or any where on her body except inside her.

Have you asked her why she won't let semen touch her skin, especially when it can be easily and quickly wiped away?
This reminds me of a time years ago when I dated a woman who at the first sign of perspiration would race to the shower!! If we were out and about then touching or cuddling like a hand around the waist or shoulders was shunned because she always wanted to be clean and pristine and "presentable" in the presence of others. Housework? The apartment was a mess because all her attention was on not getting dirty or grimy. Needless to say, I did not know how to handle this and so the relationship ended soon after it began.

How does she handle sweating during lovemaking? As mentioned, above, oral sex is often nothing more than lips to penis and/or mouth around penis. Many women have set their personal limit at ejaculating outside. Others will permit ejaculating inside and not swallowing. In this case they use a tissue to get rid of the evidence. What will she say to having a washcloth at the ready so that when you do ejaculate the semen will be caught on it? You might propose this alternative. If she says no to this then a bigger danger sign is in not having full acceptance of you--all of you. A huge psychological benefit of ejaculating on her skin is in her acceptance of "all of you" unconditionally.

My question is what her reaction will be if you lose control and accidentally ejaculate somewhere on her Vulva or thigh? Regardless of your answer, my worry is that this girl is far too restrictive with the entire process of love making to have any fun. Think about this..........

That said, it is worth trying to open her eyes to what is common practice by asking her to read the articles listed in the Index. Do the same and then discuss the information you have read. My guess is that she will find fault with most of what is presented, or, she will gain an understanding of what others do and decide that these activities are in fact done by others all the time so why not do them yourselves. Either way, you will know where your and your relationship stands.

[dlb]

Most women will perform fellatio as foreplay. A minority will perform a blow job-bringing you to orgasm with her mouth and continuing the oral stimulation until your orgasmic spasms have subsided. And, sadly, there is a sizeable minority of women who will not touch a penis with their mouths no matter what.

I once had a girlfriend who was as kinky as they come. But semen on her skin made her itch, so I didn't ejaculate on her after we discovered that.

[oaktree]

dancingdoc2 it is her personallity. She is not to big on sex for one she has endometriosis so she is in pain a lot. And i believe she has had bad experence in the past that made her shy away of doing this. and the unsecuruity she has when it comes to sex.

[dancingdoc2]

Thank you for the additional information.

Is she seeing a doctor for the condition? If so, what course of treatment has been recommended?

As for the second part, I still suggest the two of you read the various articles of interest in the Index and have a discussion about each. There are two objectives: first, to open her awareness of what is normal and acceptable; second, for her to begin to work on developing trust.

[oaktree]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Thank you for the additional information.

Is she seeing a doctor for the condition? If so, what course of treatment has been recommended?

As for the second part, I still suggest the two of you read the various articles of interest in the Index and have a discussion about each. There are two objectives: first, to open her awareness of what is normal and acceptable; second, for her to begin to work on developing trust.

She has had 6 surguries between 16 years old to 28 years old. She still has the pain even after sex (why she shies away from sex). She can not always enjoy sex because of the thought of the pain she will have during and after. Thats what she told me. I still love her and will always love her.

I am not saying that she is a bad love, just lost on what to do. i do think that i am bad lover or just not very good on getting what she needs and still trying to learnd things about sex for me and her.

Yes, we are read what you recommoand. Thx

[Roddick]

I love bj very much but my wife is not at all interested in it , she does if i force her but i dont think its the right way to go.