masturbation problems

[josh's lover]

well i'm still a virgin, i think i'm still a little to young to have sex but...that's not the point

well my boyfriend and i pleasure each other over the phone, masturbating at the same time, and it seems like if i never really reach an orgasm. he reaches his every night and i guess i don't really know if i have an orgasm but i try and act it up for him to pleasure him...is there something wrong with me? i've read the other forums and it sounds like if other women can reach orgasms through masturbation, but i can't...

is it because i'm a virgin and just are not sure? or because it's harder? i get excited but i don't know if i've ever orgasmed...

any help you can give...new ideas to stimulate myself, how your orgasms felt (sorry guys that's more for girls), or just an explanation would be SO helpful!

thanks!

~josh's lover~

[dancingdoc2]

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[Brandye]

For young men, orgasms and ejaculation are just about automatic. For young women, it is more complicated. We actually have to learn to have orgasms.

Read the masturbation ideas here and visit clitical.com. The best way to learn is doing it yourself and then you know what feels good and what you are looking for.

[bamjuju]

once upon a time I had the same problem, you just have to keep at it and see what works for you. It might take a while and you might feel silly but boy, when it happens, you'll know!