Girls orgasm

[iloveanimals]

why cant i come to have an orgasm no matter what guy ive been with ive never had one !
i feel bad about this - the guys dont mind about this as ive told them bt why am i different to you girls who can?
wil i ever get one is the question, iff so how because ive tried nearly everything
im beginning to worry im different and theres no point in sex for me

[Brandye]

Read around a bit. You will learn, on these forums, that only one woman in four regularly and frequently experience orgasm. About the same number experience orgasm during penetration and thrusting. That leaves one half of us who require some extra stimulation to get there. The best learning is by yourself. Once you learn how to reach orgasm through masturbation, you can transfer what you learn to the real thing. Read the women's forums here and visit clitical.com.

[Buck Naked]

Some women simply can't orgasm while having sex. I don't know the exact numbers, but that is a fact of life. I do think many women THINK they fall into this category because they put too much pressure on themselves which is counter productive. The best advice I can give is to use masturbation as a learning tool. If you can bring yourself to orgasm it will be a ton easier for someone else to. Also, don't put so much pressure on yourself to achieve the big "O". Enjoy the act itself. The less you think about it the better. If it's going to happen, it will happen. You can't force it.

[Brandye]

No, Buck, we cannot force it. But we can bloody well learn it.

[Buck Naked]

Originally Posted by Brandye

No, Buck, we cannot force it. But we can bloody well learn it.

LOL...Perfect.

[dancingdoc2]

Have you browsed the Index, yet?

The Index, located at the top of the main screen, contains links to many helpful insightful informative and some how-to articles. Included in the two pages are about four articles that discuss the female "O" from different perspectives. There is also one on Foreplay.

> why cant i come to have an orgasm no matter what guy ive been with ive never had one ! i feel bad about this - the guys dont mind about this as ive told them bt why am i different to you girls who can?

Unlike males of the species, the female orgasm is not a necessary part of your physiology.** While boys are driven to masturbate during puberty, and then regularly and frequently throughout their lives, girls usually are not driven to learn, often learning by conscious effort much later, if at all.

When you state that you cannot orgasm do you mean when fooling around with oral and manual stimulation {Foreplay)? Do you mean when having intercourse?

Key to this is that we do not give orgasms away. Each person, male and female, is responsible for his/her own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

** Have you learned to masturbate and if so can you regularly and consistently have orgasms? If not, you must teach yourself first and foremost in order to establish the connections between all the sensitive nerve endings in the skin and the pleasure center in the brain. If you have learned to masturbate then you must show him what you do and then take his hand and move it over a few sessions until he learns to mimic your specific technique.

The second Key is to provide him with feedback on how you are responding to his kisses and caresses and for what you need now/next. We are not mind readers. Feedback can be verbal {words or utterences) and/or non-verbal {hand movements, body English, etc.) cues that the two of you work out to convey certain meanings.

If you are having intercourse, or when you do, it is important to understand that very few positions place your pieces-parts in constant contact with his sufficient to generate the required friction to build your level of arousal to the brink. What a knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lover will do is to reach around and finger your clitoris while stroking away.

Etiquette recommends that a man help his partner achieve the first orgasm and the last by whatever means. In the middle, the two of you can enjoy them as they come along and by whatever means {Foreplay and/or intercourse).

Once each of you has had an orgasm, do not think that love making is all over for the night. WRONG. An orgasmic woman can generally have many in a row with short pauses in between. Men, can enjoy maybe one to two more depending upon age, drive, how he is wired--and, based upon how many he has had in recent hours. Each of his have a longer down time or recovery period lasting between about ten minutes to half an hour. Learn what his refactory period is and continue to make out until he is good to go again. The two of you can space yours out in between any two of his as well as holding off for one or more to more closely coincide with one of his.

> wil i ever get one is the question, iff so how because ive tried nearly everything im beginning to worry im different and theres no point in sex for me

Please answer the question about whether you can masturbate or have yet to learn.

I strongly urge that you begin clicking on the links listed in the Index starting at the top of page one and continuing to read each of the articles until reaching the bottom of page two. You will learn much about the art and the mechanics of romance and sex.

[iloveanimals]

omg thanks ever soo much on all of your amazing feedback

as to relating it when i have intercourse thats when i cant orgasm - ive tried myself and i do get a feeling of pleasure but i dont see how in that certain place i feel it has to be touched during sex to reach an orgasm - hmm

so your saying i cant have one without that area being touched ?

never knew an orgasm was like that - fort it just happened when having sex without that part being touched

[dancingdoc2]

> so your saying i cant have one without that area being touched ?

No, there are other ways for a woman to experience orgasms. There is:
* the clitoral stimulation
* the G-spot
* the fornices

[Brandye]

Animals,

As stated in another post and in my essage to you, you are not showing enough knowledge to be a believable 19 yo sexually active woman. Please stop playing games with us.

[iloveanimals]

what are you trying to say ?
i know my own age thank you and im certainly not playing games no matter what you think
not my fault i dont no about these things is it and i have read and researched but its just all too confusing and i am learning