Masturbation

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Originally Posted by donutsunny

does too much masturbation make it harder to get orgasm.

Yes and no. It is important to understand that every one of us is "wired" a bit differently and have differing sex drives. For girls, learning to masturbate requires a conscious effort. There is not the innate need or drive to do it. Because of the differences in hormone levels, namely testosterone, the desire to do it is less. Furthermore, females of the species have more ways of handling and reducing stress than just masturbation. Also, for boys age plays a part in this because young boys tend to masturbate more often and more frequently than older boys, young men, and old farts.

Normal amounts can be any frequency. "Normal" means what is right for each person. One boy might masturbate once a week, another every few days, others may masturbate every day or two, or every day. Disbursed among any of these are those times when we masturbate more than once a day and/or more than once at a time.

If a boy masturbates once every couple of days then it won't make it harder to climax. It is only when the person masturbates two or more times in a day that subsequent climaxes become more challenging to achieve. Girl or boy, you cannot masturbate too much or too often. If you try, at some point your body will simply refuse to respond for several hours. Boys experience this a lot if they are used to masturbating three or more times a day.

Girls tend to masturbate less often than boys. Regardless, if you find it difficult to achieve an orgasm and you are masturbating daily, try holding off for a couple of days. For boys, this can be a major challenge and requires a concerted effort to manage the desire for pleasure with the need to relieve stress and sexual tension.

I started it when i was much younger.

Do you masturbate frequently? About how often? Do you always use the same fingering technique? If you do then you have become accustomed to what works in order to build your arousal and then trigger an orgasm. If you stray too far from what works, either an orgasm won't happen or it will be less than intended. This is important to understand when you turn the reins over to a partner someday.**

Vibrators produce very strong sensations and it is difficult to impossible not to reach orgasms quickly and intensely. That said, if a person relies upon their use to the exclusion of fingers and less intense sensations, achieving orgasms the usual way with fingers makes it more challenging. Answer: use vibrators sparingly.

i feel like its harder for me to get orgasm, now, i think i cant reach orgasm everytime I masturbate when i use my hands or fingers but when i use sex toys, i get orgasm quickly.

"Thinking can be dangerous." Have you heard that ol' adage? If you think you can't or that it will be harder, enough, such thinking can become self fulling prophesies. Just enjoy the pleasures of each moment and do not strive to have an orgasm. If it happens, it happens, if not, no harm no foul.

There is nothing wrong with using dildos, vibrators, or other toys to enhance your pleasure and intensify your arousal; however, if you are finding it increasingly more difficult to achieve a climax from fingers alone, I suggest going back to basics and honing those connections.

when he goes down on me, i hardly feel anything, and sometime it hurts a little bit. is it because he is too hard or because of me? I really want to enjoy it but it seems difficult. can anyone helps me.

I suggest that he not perform orally until you have become very very aroused from all the making out that has gone on before. Once you are, then invite him to begin oral stimulation.

**This is a learned skill so give each other feedback verbally or non-verbally on what is working, what is not, and for what you need now/next. Why? Because when we masturbate we benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate our movements. This is missing when we turn the reins over to someone else, so since none of use are mind readers, it helps to guide his/her movements and to let them know what to do when.

If you still do not feel anything then I suggest figuring out what he is doing or not. You have a lot of sensitive areas to stimulate. These are the major and minor labia {inner and outer lips), the shaft of the clitoris, the ever important tip, the vaginal opening outside and just inside, the perineum, and, the anus.

The inner lips are especially sensitive and can be fingered, stroked, licked, and, sucked. The shaft of the clitoris like the shaft of the penis is very sensitive to being massaged even though it is buried beneath the skin. The tip of the clitoris is your most sensitive spot, so make sure he is guided to that spot. He may need your assistance because a lot of guys are ignorant of the female anatomy and even if they know where things are, may not be able to find them until they feel and touch several times. So, help the guy out.

As for hurting, this may or may not be anything he is doing. Of course if he is rough, it can hurt. Also, if you are experiencing a pain-like sensation as your orgasm nears, then this is a frequent occurrence to being pleasured. The sensation is not really pain because nothing is being injured, yet it feels that way. It is the result of certain chemicals being released by the brain. There are a couple of fixes. First, he can move to another area and stimulate the clitoris indirectly. Massaging the labia will often trigger an orgasm this way; second, folding the labia over the clitoris and massaging it through them works fine.

Lastly, making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other. If you want him to finger your clitoris, train him how by taking his fingers and guiding his movements over a few sessions until he learns to mimic what you do when home alone. If he is missing the mark with his lips or tongue, guide him in. In all cases give him the necessary feedback by word or other utterances; or, by body language or hand movements for what feels good, what you want continued, how you are responding and anything else the two of you work out. If you want his fingers to apply more or less pressure, move faster, slower, here or there, tell him. If you want him to go faster or slower, tell him. If you do not want him to stop, tell him. If you are nearing the point of no return, indicate this to him with moans, groans, or other noises.

Because we are not able to read minds, let him know when you have had an orgasm. Do not fake it. The female orgasm is much more internal than a guy's, so it is not always evident to us when it happens. Saying "wow" or giving a nice sigh and a squeeze of the hand will keep him from wondering and worrying--and, asking the question: "did you cum yet".

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when does everyone masturbate and what time of day mostly

[Bryant rachael lee]

I masturbate in the night before I sleep each time I do it it would last about 25 -30 mins .. Feels good

[erotic-massage]

i masturbate when i wake up in the morning, any time in the shower, and sometimes before i sleep. i last 20-30 min. but when my wife helps by posin in front of me, it takes 5-10 min... lol.