Irregular 1st Time Pain? but well worth it

[NavyNewlywed]

Hi Y'all, this Saturday me and my husband consumated our marraige many times. I am very excited about this but sad because he just left for Africa for six months, so I got a day of sex and now nothing. In the past, I had an excessive hyman. I'm talking my doctor called me Super Virgin :-/ I had surgery and got it removed and have been able to use tampons and such and I also didn't bleed the first time. After having sex four times ( I was a horny virgin), I was feeling pain, not from stretching but like bruising. Is this normal? What can I do in six months when I pretty much have to be devirginized again? The area on the bottom of my opening became very sore to the touch. It was almost like it was raw. Are there any positions to avoid this happening?
Thanks much-

[moose_hd]

If your body is not used to being penetrated, some soreness is probably not unusual. Especially if you go lots of times in one day, you're going to get a little worn. My suggestion is to get a toy and play with it. That will allow you to get used to the size at your own pace. I've read that some ladies are only able to get used to their man's size through the help of toys.

[thetease13]

It's not uncommon for a woman to feel a little sore afterwards, especially after her first time. It's not something you're used to, and anything you're not used to will make you feel uncomfortable for awhile.

As moose suggested, try a toy. And as they also said, some women are only able to get used to the size of a man's penis through a toy. I'm one of those people. I had numerous failed attempts at sex. It'd go in but not far and the pain was horrible. I eventually found a jelly dildo roughly the size of my guy and while that was painful at first too, I could work at it at my own pace and I got used to it. Now sex isn't really a problem other than a little soreness the day after.

I also suggest lube and lots of it. The "raw" feeling may be that he just kinda rubbed you a bit raw. Lube will help. I personally recommend Astroglide. It's helped me a lot and I use it each and every time because even though I may seem wet, I still need lube to get anywhere.

[NavyNewlywed]

Thanks y'all...I'm kind of conservative so I don't think I'll use the toys, but thanks for the suggestions. I used lube but I guess not enough...

[thetease13]

I never used my toys for pleasure (I don't get pleasure from them actually). I got them to help me loosen up down there and to get used to the feeling of something bigger than a tampon or a finger in me. I'd really suggest it, especially since it's going to be awhile till your second time rolls around.