Orgasming, but only with straightened legs!

[ae52005]

Hi,
I'm not sure if this is weird or not. I know that most people have better orgasms by themselves simply because they know what to do to make themselves come. And I do have good orgasms by myself, but I can't come close to an orgasm with my boyfriend, which is a problem. The reason, I think, is that whenever I masturbate, no matter what else I'm doing to myself, I always make my legs very tight and straight, sometimes to the point of them being sore the next day. I think it's because when I was little I had this rope on my swing set I used to climb and unavoidably, the rope would always go between my legs and rub my crotch and my legs would be tightened in the fashion I mentioned before because of the way I was swinging on the rope. So that is how a weird childhood activity evolved into masturbation. When I masturbate now, the leg tightening is not involuntary, but it's necessary for me to reach orgasm. I have tried masturbating without doing it and I always get so frustrated that I give up, tighten my legs, and have an orgasm within 10 seconds, then I loosen my legs. I guess that over the years I've gotten so conditioned to having an orgasm being associated with tightened legs that I can't do it any other way. And I don't want my sex life with my boyfriend to be centered around positions in which I can straighten my legs. Plus there isn't really any room left for a penis, hand, or mouth if my thighs are so tight, so that rules out a lot of sexual activity. I've heard of other women who have this problem and people say "if you found a way to orgasm, then why change anything?" but I want to be able to have an orgasm no matter what my legs are doing. Does anyone know if there is some connection between leg muscles and the orgasm? Or maybe I only think I'm orgasming, but really my legs are getting tired, so I release them, and that releases pleasure? Because after I do this leg orgasming thing, I can tighten my legs back up and have 2 or 3 more orgasms in a minute following this pattern. It's a good system for me alone, but not for my sex life. Any ideas?

[Brandye]

One-quarter of all women never have orgasms! Only about a quarter regularly have orgasm during penile thrusting. That means that most os need some additional stimulation. Whatever the reason, you have found what works for you.

An orgasm is a release of tension in many muscles. While they tend to focus in the lower abdomen, any and all muscles can be involved. You may be able to try to refocus with your b/f. The muscles in the lower torso that tend to have the strongest contractions are the anal sphincters. Many of us have very intense orgasms when anal play is integrated with, for instance, cunnilingus. Your legs may be squeezing the muscles of your entire pudenda - front and back.

You may want to talk this out with your b/f but keep in mind that women have unique orgasmic experience. If it works, do it!