orgasms?

[Sweetness12]

Ok, i am kind of new to sex, and i dont know what an orgasm really is, or what it feels like or how to get one or anything.. i'm REALLY self conscience and i dont like being fingered because, well i dont know, i just dont like it.. so.. when will I have an orgasm? the longest i've had sex is an hour and it was great but... how do I know if i've orgasmed or not?


any help would be REALLY appreciated...


-rachel

[Brandye]

Most young men are terrible at fingering. They, like you, have to learn.

AAll of us wondered what an orgasm was until we had one. There will be no further question. For several months I masturbated having little twinges that I thought were pretty neat until, I had one. You will likely find out the same way.

The best way for most women to find out is .... alone. Once you masturbated to orgasm, you know what you are looking ofr. Until you have experienced one, it is kind of a crap shoot with any man. Get a copy of Our Bodies, Our Selves and figure out what is going on "down there." Chick Chat has a thread on "Female Sexual Response." There are many sites (including this one) with masturbation techniques for women. I think in the modern world more women than not find success with a vibrator. I like my two middle fingers.

[chipmunk]

hi. i had a similar problem but i don't mind be fingered or anything i don't mind anything w/ all of my experimentation-i even bought a vibrator- i still can't oragasm i can't make myself orgasm and i can't seem to get one from the men i've been with. i can't help but wonder what is wrong w/ me b/c i don't feel like i'm tense or self conscious or uncomfortable. and using my fingers makes me more uncomfortable than my vibrator it might be my nails but i've noticed some ppl have nails and can handle it. mine are long.

[Brandye]

Some facts that are available around the board:

Nature makes orgasms easy for men because their orgasm is required to keep the species going. Nature does not care about our orgasms because we get just as pregnant whether or not we have an orgasm. Therefore, orgasms are rather natural and easy for men but we women need to learn - usually by ourselves initially.

One-quarter of all women NEVER have orgasms. They probably can but give up rather than continuing to try to learn.

One-half of us are orgasmic but not from penile thrusting - we need additional stimulation oral, manual, whatever.

The book Our Bodies Our Selves is a great primer on how our bodies work. That understanding is helpful rather than just rubbing away. The book Joy of Sex has techniques that may be helpful and enough ideas to keep you going your whole life!

Women tend to masturbate differently from one another. Some always have some penetration; some, never. Some use two fingers; some, three; some, one. Some only with a vibrator. I find surface vibrators ok some of the time but I dislike those you insert. If you cannot figure it out, imagine a man trying to figure it out when he is not similarly equipped.

There is nothing wrong with you; you just need some more learning and self-exploration. Good luck.

[chelsea]

why can you wear cheap bras and would you get an orgasm when holdin pressured water against you vaginal area (the small part above the urinal hole) go onto my help hting fingerein withiut fingers i need help on that

[chelsea]

so if you want an organish and this works why dont you try it its something new!!

[Brandye]

No, it is something old and the vagina is an internal organ not located above the urethra.