He Doesnt Feel Me Orgasm

[Just_A_Question]

I dont know why but my fiance never feels me orgasm during intercourse. He has told me he has felt other partners in the past orgasm and he doesn't feel me which makes him feel like he isn't arousing me. I am beggining to doubt whether or not im truly climaxing if he doesn't feel it. It is really making him feel terrible about not being able to make me climax which makes sex not as enjoyable because the entire time he is trying so hard to feel me orgasm but he doesn't. and everytime he doesnt feel me orgasm i feel like a falure to him whereas he feels like a faliure to me. How do i let him know he is really pleasuring me and why arent i orgasm where he can feel it?

[thetease13]

Well, I can't offer much advice but I can say that my guy doesn't feel me either. He knows I'm enjoying it but I have to bring myself to a climax (which he doesn't mind) and after I'm done (and still riding him or whatever) he'll ask if I came and I'll say yes and he'll say good and we'll continue on till he comes.

Logically he could feel the contracting of the muscles but I don't think every girl tightens up the same, so even if you are coming, you're not squeezing the heck out of him, or something. I'm sure Brandye has a bit more insight on this.

[Brandye]

We women have all sorts of orgasms. Some of them like we are having convulsions; other are simple sighs. Different women have different strengths in various muscles. Some rarely have perceptible spasms; others always do. If you are enjoying sex, it is his problem. Time he gets educated because if his sexual satisfaction depends upon someone else's response, he will never be satisfied.

[Newcomer]

I know exactly what you're talking about. My boyfriend never feels me orgasm. And it doesn't matter what he's doing to me, whether it be fingering, oral sex, etc. He always asks me if I'm satisfied, and I am. I'm just not loud or exaggerant about it. I'm not really sure how to change that.

[Brandye]

You do not need to change. We are each who we are. Be pleased and do not try to change.

[Lackadaisical]

My boyfriend always tends to tell me afterwards if I tightened up a lot or not, but I know for me it's different every time. That's what makes it so great; the change in type. He definitely knows when I come though...he knows when I'm close without any of the physical signs, just something you learn after time.