Numb or lack of feeling in clitoris

[trustno1]

I'm having lots of trouble lately with getting stimulated. I had a vibrator (not vaginal) that I've used for a very long time, but have recently thrown away because I want to experience orgasms with my husband naturally. However, I find that I can't feel much in the way of stimulation because my body is used to having a powerful vibrator bring me to climax. Have I now destroyed my chances of ever having a natural climax that my husband produces in me? Has anyone here ever experienced this? Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm at my wits end and I'm beginning to panic. My husband is not pressuring me at all, so there is no problem on that end - but I believe I am pressuring myself. HELP!

[Jm33]

I don't think you have made it impossible to have a orgasm with your husband but it may take some getting used to. I too used vibrators a lot and the stimulation is very different than that of a real person. Play around with him and see what you like and dislike and what gets the most feeling for you. Everyone is different. Your clit may need some time to get used to not having the vibrator. Or if worse comes to worse you may not be able to have one that way. A lot of women never experience orgasm in their entire life. I know, a horrible thing to think about...

[Brandye]

You have developed a habit (not necessarily bad!) and your clitoris may require some reprogramming. I find your term "naturally" intersting.

25% of all women never have orgasms. They can learn and often a vibrator is part of the practice. 50% of all women (I am in this group) do not reach orgasm through penile thrusting alon but require additional stimulation - tongue, hands, fingers (his or hers). That leaves about a quarter of us who reach orgasm with our pernters or ourselves thrusting away. What of these would you cansider "natural?"

Woman on top gives you the best ability to get things positioned just right and stimulate exactly what you want to stimulate. My favorite position allows me to have him in me while I manipulate my own clitoris. My g/f uses the same position and uses a vibrator with it. She says her male partners find the sensation really pleasant.

[Just_A_Question]

i think i have that same problem kind of. But i don orgasm. My fiance tell me that he can't feel me orgasm. He thinks he isn't doing it right. But i do orgasm. And i try to convince him. He tells me that he has felt other partners orgasm before me and wishes that he could feel me orgasm. i have used a vibrator before and some now. one used just for clituris stimulation and have that same fear that i have deadened it a little. i wish he could feel me orgasm

[open to ideas]

how does the guy feel a girls orgasm? or do you mean that he can just tell your reaction?

[Brandye]

Some women during orgasm have such powerful contractions of the muscles in their lower pelvis that they can be felt by a partner. The contractions of the anal sphincters are particularly strong and can be felt in the vagina. Some women's contractions are rather mild and are not perceptible. Some have pwerful contractions sometimes but not all times.