Am I Ready For Sex?

[BTDTWoman]

Unfortunately, a large percentage of girls have vaginal sex for the first time when they are too drunk to enjoy themselves or remember the big event. And most boys are hardly skilled lovers their first time around. Put the two together and it can be a moment to forget.

[katiebug]

All I wish that someone had told me before my first time was that it's not anything like you see in the movies, and not to expect anything magical to happen. I was sober and my BF was sober, I had no pain - but I wouldn't say I exactly had pleasure either. A moment to forget is right. But I had built up a lot of hype around it thinking it was going to this magnificent moment that changed the rest of my life. Besides being able to say from that point on that I had had a penis in my vagina, nothing was different. Sex didn't even start to feel good until I was much older and more aware of my body and what turns me on and gets me off. Personally - I think the first time you see and touch a penis, that is a more momentous moment than having sex for the first time. Many people "fool around" with hands, mouth, whatever before having intercourse, yet still consider themselves a virgin. By my own definition (I realize this is not shared by everyone), I consider myself having lost my virginity the first time I fooled around with a guy. There are major benefits, however, to deciding not to have intercourse and to keeping it at "fooling around". Virtually no fear of pregnancy is a major one (although there are freak accidents, if you keep the penis away from the vagina completely your chances are greatly reduced!) Giving yourself more time to get comfortable and learn how to ask for what you want in bed is another. All in all, I think that a lot of women might feel the same way I do when I say - I wish I had waited until I was older to lose my virginity.

[SharpestThing]

Originally Posted by katiebug

All in all, I think that a lot of women might feel the same way I do when I say - I wish I had waited until I was older to lose my virginity.

I Am one of em. i lost mine at 17. After my fist time i wasn't really very enthusiastic about having sex And was completely disappointed until just recently. I'm 22 now, and i always think to myself that i should have waited.

Now that i know myself better I enjoy it, like it should have been from the start it's like I can't get enough of!

[atomic]

I lost mine at 26 and have only had 2 partners. My first was my long-term boyfriend of 5 years, and we had fooled around plenty before but were both happy waiting. My first time was special because it was a way to show him how much he meant to me, and it did feel like a moment to remember. We sadly broke up a little while after, our having sex had nothing to do with it. I have since slept with my best friend who I started dating, someone who has a lot more experience and it was different but also very enjoyable. I don't mind waiting until I am in a proper relationship to have sex again, maybe I am too preoccupied with work and other activities to think about it too much, and there is always sex with the person who knows exactly how to hit the right spots. Me

I am glad I waited because it was special moment for both of us and mentally, I was more mature to experience it.

[pokemon]

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[maupassant]

Originally Posted by BTDTWoman

Unfortunately, a large percentage of girls have vaginal sex for the first time when they are too drunk to enjoy themselves or remember the big event. And most boys are hardly skilled lovers their first time around. Put the two together and it can be a moment to forget.

Well, times change I suppose, but I as a young bloke really wanted sex but did not manage to penetrate a girl till I was about 17. It was a bit frightening. No condom (too scared to go and ask for one from the Chemist/drug store).
So it was all a 'bitter/sweet/bitter' event. having a girl get me aroused and then the sheer sweetness of putting my penis into the most wonderful pleaure-hole imaginable. then the final bitterness of having to pull out when it was getting better and better and better and better. I did not get her pregnant fortunately.
So, I understand Brandye's points, but maybe we guys needed some maternal adviser!!!

[sarah_rsl]

I think the key thing to avoid when having sex for the first time is alcohol. I'd also suggest actually arranging a time and place for it with your partner well in advance.

For me it was a relatively pleasant experience. I was actually more nervous about being naked in front of a guy than the sex. I had all sorts of rules I laid down before hand like where he could touch me and what was off limits.

I kind of skipped the foreplay i sorted myself out in the toilet first put loads of lube on. dove under the cover with the lights off and did the business, which was fairly uncomfortable. back into the toilet back out then kisses and cuddles which was nice.

[KMB]

I feel so ready for sex I don't want to push my boyfriend, I mean he wants to have sex with me too although I still don't want to push him into doing it if he's not really ready.

[Unwanted]

Jeez after reading all that I feel really bad! I'm only 14 and I lost mine a few months ago. I'm so stupid!! I feel like a slut now.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Unwanted

Jeez after reading all that I feel really bad! I'm only 14 and I lost mine a few months ago. I'm so stupid!! I feel like a slut now.

Why???? A slut? Not hardly. Many were the same age; it's hormones.