Your First Pelvic Exam

[Makale_83]

I'm a 21 year old virgin (found the right guy once but he wanted to wait until marriage and haven't found the right guy since..)

Anyway, my first exam was in bootcamp. I'll tell you what I was scared to death! But the doctor there and the female corpsman were both very friendly and it didn't hurt at all! I was so relieved after it was over though because I knew I was due for one.

[Shiangel]

I am 23 and havent had one yet. I am kinda scared about it because I am so shy at times. But I know I have to go in very soon to get on birth controle. I am glad this topic was put up, it has made me feel a bit better about it.

[mmparks]

As far as Im concerned a pelvic should NEVER hurt... There si no reason for it anyway I have had both male and female ob/gyn's and top me Ive found no gentleness difference and my FAVORITE ob was a male. I started my period VERY early.. right before my 9th birthday and had to get a pelvic then cause my mom was afraid there was something wrong.

As for being shy.. dont. Easy to say I lknow.. but its something women have to do for their lifetime.. so its best to just relax and get over the anxiety. ANd as a dunny side note.. I was shy when I had my first baby.. By the second one I coul;dnt have cared less if the Doc invited a marching band in to help deliver her... you WILL get used to it and see that your "private parts" are just like all your other parts!

[GoRoEoEoN]

My first pap was this march and I'm 20 years old. It was so awful, more awful then when I played it out in my mind. I had been dreading it my whole life, and I don't ever want to do it again. But the most important thing is that it MUST be done, and I would rather have it done and know my health status than to never know. It is a big relief to hear everything come back good (even if you aren't expecting anything bad) and if something does come back, it's important to know and treat right away. However, I must say, it is unfortunate that my first and only time I got fingered was by a middle-aged lady.

[Brandye]

Green,

Your story is all too common and inexcuseable to my profession. Find another gyn. MM points out that both male and female doctors can be good and you discovered that even women can be insensitive.

Remember the importance; keep up the checks. Encourage others to do the same.

Your next exam WILL be better.

[Minta]

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[ductapefaerie]

I got my first pelvic done, my doctor had two different speculums, a big one and a small one...and the small one is about the size of a tampon...it didn't hurt a bit...

[ShadowLynnParker]

I was forteen. I remember this because my Mother took me. I also remember that for some odd reason she insisted on a male doctor. I never understood this. I thought at that age that a female would be more understanding and like two girlfriends discussing the topics that intailed. I guess my mother thought that a man should be the one to be fiddling down there. I thought it was a doctor not a relationship and I still think this way. I only go to a woman doc. If I want a man down there I want it to be my man lol. It is just that a female doctor knows about the female bod. A man just knows what he learned.

[Lonewolf*]

Have to go for my first exam on March 9th. Anything anyone can say to make me feel less nervous?

My 40 something year old male doctor was not the first man I wanted down there. My two friends said they would both come with me, just in the waiting room, and I know they'll try to take my mind off of it.

But when I'm alone I have time to think, and I'm scared.
I wish I had a female doctor, but at the same time I wouldnt want to switch now because I've know this doctor my whole life. Either way I wish he was a she.

To top it off, the next night I'm going over to my boyfriends place for a nice three night stay. Only problem is, if I'm still weirded out by the doctor touching me, which chances are I will be... then I know I wont want my boyfriend touching me. And that sucks.

[demonbuttercup]

"To top it off, the next night I'm going over to my boyfriends place for a nice three night stay. Only problem is, if I'm still weirded out by the doctor touching me, which chances are I will be... then I know I wont want my boyfriend touching me. And that sucks."

Well for me I am like this for at least that same day. I am usually ok by the next day but yea, no touching me the same day I go to the gyno lol. You do get kinda weirded out. But its ok. You just have to think to yourself, "your's isn't the first one they've ever seen. They look at them all day... so its no big deal to them"
good luck