need help

[deshon09]

i just had my 1st time 3 days ago and could not climax am i doing something wrong the 1st time was about an hour the second time was 45 minuets
and just today was about an hour and a half tips on why i can not cilmax


i was relay nervous the 1st few times but the last time not so much what can we do

[dancingdoc2]

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Originally Posted by deshon09

i just had my 1st time 3 days ago and could not climax am i doing something wrong the 1st time was about an hour the second time was 45 minuets
and just today was about an hour and a half tips on why i can not cilmax


Much more information is needed because it is important to know first and foremost whether or not you have learned to masturbate and if so can climax regularly. If not, you must learn. Each of us is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

If you can and do masturbate, then how long out of the hour or the 45 minutes you devoted to fooling around and making out, and, how much time was devoted to foreplay; and lastly, intercourse. Your answers show how much time and effort went into arousing you. It is important to know and understand that women require much more time. Guys on the other hand can be aroused and ready almost as a result of just thinking about it--that quickly.

Next if you are trying to climax from hand stimulation and/or oral {Foreplay), or intercourse, then more than likely you are not using the proper techniques. Successful Foreplay requires showing each other how we masturbate, and, to take each others hand and guide their movements over a few sessions until s/he learns to mimic each others technique.

Key to all of this is to provide verbal and/or non-verbal feedback on how we are responding to the kisses and caresses and for what we need now/next.

i was relay nervous the 1st few times but the last time not so much what can we do

All of this is outlined and discussed in one or more of the articles listed in the Index. Please read all of the articles, separately or together, and then discuss what you have learned. Knowledge is empowering.

I imagine everybody is nervous the first few times whether it is the first time ever, or, the first time with this partner. It is natural to want to be "perfect" yet knowing that it is unlikely. Also, if a person is not comfortable with their body, has never undressed in front of someone, or has yet to develop trust, one or more of these matters can make life uncomfortable for a while. Don't worry about it.

Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. Work together.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[deshon09]

thank you for your help