Cant get it up..Gets soft as soon as i attempt 2 put on condom..etc.

[ILS]

I'm 19 and just lost my virginity..sadly, i had a chance wen i 17 w/ my ex but i cldnt get it up...I had another chance wen i was in college..and i cldnt get it up again....This time however i asked the girl i was with to give me head when i couldnt get it up and it started getting a little hard but as soon as i'd try and put the condom or put it in...I'd get soft again...Embarrased as hell i finally decided to go 2 a gas station and a weekend print pill which got the job done...even though id get a little soft as soon as my penus came out of her vagina...Feeling confident after using the pill i tried to have sex with her again with out it and it wouldn't get hard...what can i do...any suggestions..this is getting embarrasing to the point where i dont wanna be with her alone cuz im scared i wont get it up....i know its probly mental but how can I fix this...Sum times my penus'll even get hard wen im with but as soon as we put the moves on eachother it gets soft again...HELPP ME

[Kitty_Kitty]

I dont know much but try to relax, Keep calm and dont try to think so much. don't concentrate on anything but getting that nut off, don't worry so much for her.

[nickvjones]

dude! im 19 and just about a month ago i finally lost my virginity. but as far as your issue goes, a couple times i was hard and went to put on the condom and i started to get soft and i focused way to hard trying to get hard again and then i just got totally soft cause i was thinking about it way to much and she told me just to relax and be in the moment and to not worry about my dick. and sure enough i got hard again... oh yeah one very important thing too. remember to breath! like no joke if you dont breath enough or regularly it will be hard to get hard, so just relax and breath. hope it gets better!

[Brandye]

1. Learn to write standard English. It took me five minutes to decipher your post.

2. Many men, especially those new to sex, have the same experience. Performance anxiety affects both genders but, from posts on this Board, men more than women. Or, at least, it affects them differently. The issue is mental. A talk with her so that she knows what is happening and is confident you will not leave her high and dry will go a long way towards defusing the situation and allowing each of you to perform.

And, let her put the condom on you. Make that part of the play