Keep losing erection

[seil]

When I am with my girlfriend I can't seem to keep a ragingly hard erection. I often go soft in her vagina.

For me to get an erection hard enough to put inside her she has to mastrubate me and give me a bit of a blowjob and then I am hard enough to put it inside her but then I often go soft soon after.

I can't understand it. Do I not find her attractive or something?

It is true she isnt always the sexiest dresser. Is this it?

[dancingdoc2]

> When I am with my girlfriend I can't seem to keep a ragingly hard erection. I often go soft in her vagina.

How are your erections when you masturbate? Do you frequently have "spontaneous erections" that are hard?

> For me to get an erection hard enough to put inside her she has to mastrubate me and give me a bit of a blowjob and then I am hard enough to put it inside her but then I often go soft soon after.

Is this not the right thing for her to do?

Many fellas operate under the misguided misconception that the way to a climax is from lots and Lots of stroking and thrusting. WRONG. This is the why of all the fooling around and making out beforehand. You should be at the brink of an orgasm before entering. If you lose your erection then it is more likely than not that it is nerves. The fix is quite literally to stop worrying about this, that, or the other thing that concerns you. How your partner responds to this happening is critically important. Being supportive and helping to rebuild your erection are next in line.

Another cause might very well be the position you are using. Some positions place the penis at an angle within the vagina that does not provide for a snug fit and thus friction is reduced. If this is what is happening--switch positions.

Please read this article.


> I can't understand it. Do I not find her attractive or something?

Of course this can be a cause and is perhaps why the the phrase "he's just not that into you" was coined a few years ago. Do I believe this is what is happening with you--not likely. I'm going to go with either nerves, make out method, or a combination of the two.

> It is true she isnt always the sexiest dresser. Is this it?

What's this got to do with anything? Isn't she undressed? I believe what you are really asking is if you are sufficiently attracted to her as a person. How the "package" is wrapped shouldn't matter, it's what's inside!

IF YOU HAVE THE HOTS FOR THIS GIRL, MY FIRST GUESTIMATION IS--NO.
IF YOU HAVE THE HOTS FOR THIS GIRL, AND YOU ARE ALL ABOUT THE WRAPPING, THEN I'D SAY YOUR PRIORITIES AND WHAT SHOULD BE IMPORTANT ARE ALL OUT OF WHACK.

> Your concern in part was addressed a few days ago. Please read "Part 2" of my reply in that thread.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

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[seil]

Exercise solved this overnight. I went on a longish cycle ride and really worked up a sweat. Next day: hard as a rock

[lnt1103]

...which only drives home the point that you need to chill out and grow up. Stop looking for easy formulas to 2-second orgasms for either one of you. Cuz they don't exist.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by seil

Exercise solved this overnight. I went on a longish cycle ride and really worked up a sweat. Next day: hard as a rock

How would that solve your problem? I have a hard time believing you.

Originally Posted by seil

It is true she isnt always the sexiest dresser. Is this it?

You also randomly asked is it true she isn't the sexiest dresser. How do we suppose to know this information? We have not seen a picture of her. You also did not describe what type of clothes she wears.

[bWg]

The cycle ride probably helped because like everything else, sex is 99% mental. The ride may have relieved some stress that had been building lately, or just taken your mind off of the "problem."

If you think the cycle ride helped, that's probably what helped. Sort of a placebo effect.

[tntitans21399]

I had this problem with a new girl I am seeing. I think for me, even thou I really wanted to , it had been a while and maybe subconsciously my body was nervous. I am going to see her again in a month, we leave 4 hours apart, and I don't want to come up short again. We went to Walgreens and tried a product that you can buy in the aisle, so no over the counter stuff. They didn't work. Is their anything out their that you don't need a subscription, internet store or GMAC type of place that has something that works just to get you over this issue.

[dancingdoc2]

Did you read my reply, above?

Have you browsed thru the Index?

Did you find and read this article?

ERECTION problems
Top Line: Erections come and erections go. A penis seemingly has a mind of its own.
There are generally three concerns fellas have regarding erections:

For more on the subject of PA, or Performance Anxiety, do an advanced search using my name.

Pills, Potions, Pumps? Na, none are worth the cost.

You now have the tools. Remember making love is not something we do "by the numbers", so relax, STOP WORRYING, and enjoy exploring and learning together. Do not have any expectations other than having a great time. Remember, girls love time, attention, and, being woo'd. An orgasm isn't a requirement. For you, yes, although, how you get there is not as important as enjoying the adventure--rough or smooth. If you focus more on this and less on being perfect doing everything right, you will have a much more enjoyable adventure.