Need a little help

[shinji]

Hi all, this is my first posting and I beleive this may belong here.

I am currently in a relationship, but when the semester ends me and my girlfriend move to seperate locations, were still together and stuff, but this is getting off topic.

My problem is this, because of the distance, our sexual encounters are a lot less then normal, in fact we haven't had sex in a month cause whenever were together its in public places and we can't go anywhere private. Because of this, I have started to feel the need to masterbate, a lot. Its gotten to the point that I do it once a day, every day, and she knows and is confortable with it. What i want to know is it a bad thing I do so? In terms of physical health should I restrain myself and not do it every night?

also, I useally do it bare handed, is that a bad thing to or do I have to use something like lotion or something?

I understand these are odd questions, but util recently I have never really done this as often, or at all, so any help and advice wuld be welcome.

[cjb1981]

Nothing odd about your questions at all. And welcome to the forum! I'll start off by saying, read the rules, and the stickys. If you do, you'll have an informative and entertaining experience here.
Now here are some answers to your questions...
1.-Masturbate as often as you feel the need to, so long as it's not interfering with other aspects of your life, and you're not causing any damage to the area.
2.-By barehanded, I assume you mean dry. As in you don't use any lubricant, correct? If so, there's nothing wrong with that, I've been doing it for 14 years now without a problem.

OK, hope that helped.

[dancingdoc2]

You can masturbate as much as you need to, be it once a week or so, once a week, once every few days, once every day, and/or two or more times a day. There is nothing wrong with masturbation except if it interferes with daily obligations or you create friction burns along the shaft of your penis.

Friction burns are bothersome because they scab over and are right over a sensitive spot that you want to rub. It is not unusual to rub the scab off instead of bypassing it in favor of concentrating your movements some other place.

As mentioned, above, you can rub dry or wet. Each creates a different sensation and different results. Wet can be done using saliva, hand lotion, a commercial lube available over the counter in supermarkets and pharmacies.

Please read this article:
Boys and Masturbation / Got questions?

After reading the entire thread and three-part article, have a look at this site that I believe is the preeminent authority on male masturbation:
www.jackinworld.com

> I have started to feel the need to masterbate, a lot. Its gotten to the point that I do it once a day, every day, and she knows and is confortable with it.

Masturbation is private and personal except when done while making love. When private, it is nobody's business but yours. What someone else thinks about what you do is immaterial and irrelevant. **

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[dancingdoc2]

It happens sometimes that inexperienced girls confuse love and sex, believing that if they have sex or "put out" to use the vernacular, they also become loved. Not true. Boys especially, and some young men, will often say and do anything to get their proverbial rocks off. To us sex is sex and love is a separate matter. Integrating the two and understanding that sex is the outward expression of the love we have for our partner comes with maturity.

Its gotten to the point that I do it once a day, every day, and she knows and is confortable with it.

It is important for a guy to convey to his girlfriend who is threatened by the knowledge that he masturbates that masturbation is not a substitute for the love they share, nor is doing it along with making love an indication that she is inadequate as a sexual partner. Nothing could be further from the truth. Girls and women should read the thread Boys and Masturbation / Got questions? in order to gain an understanding of the male physiology and psyche.

Males and females of the species masturbate and do so for different reasons. It is important that women understand why men masturbate and that it has nothing to do with his love for her or her perception of being a satisfying and loving mate and being threatened by the fact that his masturbating means she is somehow a failure. If all is well and good with the relationship as a whole, nothing could be further from the truth.

It is not at all unusual for men to masturbate before or after making love. Making love satisfies the psyche. Masturbating beforehand or sometime afterward addresses his need to reduce ongoing stress and sexual tension. If he does it because it feels good, then this is OK, also; although, my question is why not suggest making love, again? (Sometimes this isn't possible for any number of reasons.)

If and when a couple is separated from one another, masturbation can keep those loving feelings alive and well. Sailors and soldiers, men working out of town and away for days at a time all do it; coupled with a vivid fantasy, there is no harm no foul.

So, while masturbation and making love both end with an orgasm and ejaculation for men, the reasons for engaging in each is different. It is important that women understand these differences.

[shinji]

Thanks for the help everyne, this information has been really helpful for me.