Squeeze

[madmike]

Right first ill say sorry coz i no this is already on the site, but i really need help!
i just cant get the hang of the squeeze technique.
iv been doing it for a few months, and i really want to last longer not just for my benifit but for my girl friends too, so can any one help?
Thanks in advance
x

[dancingdoc2]

The technique is discussed in an article listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. You can also do a GOOGLE search.

Please describe exactly what you are doing and when.

[Brandye]

It works best with a cooperative partner. Have her read all the pertinent stuff and let her do the squeezing. Can be fun as well as beneficial.

[madmike]

i use my index and middle finger and thumb on the other side, on the shaft as you say,
and i squeeze really hard.

[dlb]

Hi Mad Mike,

The Squeeze Technique seems to have a marvelous track record otherwise I doubt that it would be the technique most recommended by sex therapists. It does not, however, work for everyone.

I have found that the Grunt Technique works much better.

grunt technique - the man mimics the action of trying to pass a difficult stool and grunts in the same manner actually eases the tension in the ejaculatory apparatus thus allowing him to postpone ejaculation for a while. At first you might want to stop thrusting. If she asks what's going on, especially what the grunting is about, you can tell her. After you have done it a few times you know the muscles and don't have to actually grunt. With practice you should be able to postpone ejaculation and possibly ( in my case it happened) separate ejaculation from orgasm thus allowing yourself to have more orgasms in a session.

I should add that just because it worked for me doesn't mean it will work for you. Your mileage may vary, as they say.

While it is true that premature ejaculation is statistically the most common male sexual dysfunction, at least in younger men, I am beginning to suspect that we tend to be misled and misinformed about what is a realistic ( and more importantly pleasurable) duration for a single act of coitus. Popular magazines, pornographic media and cultural myths lead us to believe that in order for a man to be a good lover he should have extremely long lasting erections during sex and take a long time to reach orgasm.

I have found over the years that women who are sexually secure reach orgasm about as quickly and easily as men. Taking a long time to reach orgasm does not make a man a good sex partner. Knowing how to help his partner reach orgasm and make her orgasm more enjoyable and being able to allow her to reciprocate in a way that is mutually enjoyable are some of the things that make a man a good sex partner. If you can go 20, 30, 45 minutes consistently and you and your partner find it consistently fulfilling then fine. Most coital acts probably last somewhere between 3 and 10 minutes. Unless the purpose is a quickie 3 minutes preceded by lots of foreplay and afterplay works pretty well for a lot of people. If the purpose is a quickie 10 minutes seems a little long.

Squeeze technique, grunt technique and other therapies can help some men who have a clinical dysfunction or who simply want to stay in the saddle longer. In the end I have found that the greatest aid to prolong coitus is to stop worrying about how long I am lasting and just enjoy the moment.

[madmike]

Thanks dlb, that sounds great ill try it, but unless im mistaken have you even actually shit whilst doing this?

[dlb]

haha Mad Mike. No scat play here. Don't grunt so hard you get a hernia or hemorrhoids! The grunting as if passing a stool is just to help you discover which muscles are used; the same as telling people to try to squeeze the PC muscle to stop a stream of urine when teaching the Kegel exercise.

Yeah, everybody wants to be a comedian.

[mattc]

I tried the squeeze method once.....let's just say it didn't work as planned. I pulled out and squeeze, but I must have been too far along because I ended up coming all over my hand. It did provide comic relief, but that wasn't the intended outcome!

[dlb]

I tried the squeeze technique several times when I was younger. My experience was about the same as mattc's---I came all over someone's hand every time.

[madmike]

why is it that when i use a condom, i can last longer?