Masturbatin not exciting anymore?

[ld05]

So this is another thread I'm posting for me and my husband who is deployed and can't have access to this website.

He's been having problems masturbating lately. He only does it about once a week or so but he says it's not exciting anymore. To the point that he doesn't even want to do it because it's not pleasurable, but only to "relieve pressure".

Here is another part of what he wrote to me. I'll just copy and paste, since it's easier:
"most of the time that I'm with you.....like.....and I climax.....it doesn't feel any different then when I masterbate. and like, every time I hear guys talk about sex they always talk about how like, "it was the greatest ever" or whatever. am I doing something wrong? like, when I'm with you it's supposed to be....like powerful or whatever....right?
I think that's also part of the reason why, like sometimes.....I just don't want to have sex. cause.....like.....it doesn't feel any different to me then when I'm by myself. I don't know if that makes sense or not."

Any ideas, anyone??

[Brandye]

Sad. If sex is not better than masturbating, why bother having someone else involved. Masturbating is more efficient.

Perhaps the two of you want some marriage counseling when he gets home.

[ld05]

Ummm.....thanks?

We don't really need marital counseling. Our marriage is just fine. He is my best friend. Sex therapy, maybe. Although we live in a small town with the nearest big town about an 8 hour drive away and I'm not really sure there is a whole lot of help around here.... Anyways I'm his first and he is wondering if he may just be overthinking it becuase it's not the like supernatural experience he hears everyone else talking about all the time.

[ld05]

So seriously there is no hope for us? Its not like sex is bad or anything. We were talking online a couple nights ago and he said the whole time he had a hard on and after I logged off he thought he came in his pants because there was so much pre-cum.... He just says that when we have sex it feels physically the same when he climaxes as when he's alone. This has been bugging the shit outta me since he told me. And if all anyone can say is "too bad...that sucks" then I don't know....

[Brandye]

No, I did not say there is no hope. I said that you may need a bit of reintroduction.

We women are lucky because there is such a variety to our orgasms. We can enjoy big ones, little ones, be transported or simply sigh. Or not have one. And still be quite satisfied.

The male orgasm is pretty much the same (book learning, I do not have a penis) each time and no matter how it is caused. That is one reason we women need to extract semen a variety of ways - to give our partners some varied experience.

Physically (your word), then, an orgasm is an orgasm for a man. I hope he finds a difference in stimulation between his hand, your hand, your other stuff. Your last post indicated that the desire is still there.

As for changing the physiology of the male orgasm won't happen. It has evolved as it has so be prepared to vary your techniques of semen extraction.

[ld05]

Ok. That explained things much better. Thank you.

[illeashu]

ido5 , thats very typical of what many men feel sometimes, not all, its often deep seated and so, not easy to point out, in other words it is likely to be very complicated and probably personal in nature, but it is a forum,

[dancingdoc2]

The following site is what I believe is the preeminent authority on male masturbation. Please give it a read and then copy and paste any info or rewrite it into your E-mail for him.

I find it much easier to navigate the site if you go to the site map.

Two things may be happening to him; first, is that he is no doubt under a great deal of stress being there and doing his job and watching his tail; second, he may just be bored and this happens to guys once in a while. The information on this site will give him some variety.

www.jackinworld.com

-doc

[afrofaya]

Ladies and gentlemen, I have a penis and i know that not all orgasms are the same. When am inside my wife, each orgasm can not be compared to a hand job. Each hand job orgasm varies according to how aroused i am.

But i do know this, masturbation for a man can get boring after a while when you do it same place, same time, same how. Sex with your wife can refreshing. However if the two are at par, then you probably need to reorient.