Sex Lube That Still Provides Friction?

[zman]

Hello,

Several years ago I broke my back, resulting in nerve damage to my groin area. Subsequently, my penis has about 30% less sensitivity than before (my own estimate). I have remained sexually active and so thankful that I have been able to please my wife. Nonetheless, it often takes very direct and intense stimulation for me to achieve orgasm. Rarely is intercourse or oral sex enough for me to climax, as masturbation and/or a handjob is the key, if at all. Here is my question:

Is there a sex lube or lotion that provides a certain amount of friction, yet keeps the organ(s) from chapping?

Every lube we have tried actually reduces the sensation for me and is counterproductive. I usually prefer to be stroked "dry" and blood has actually been drawn at times. Over the years, this repeated scaring has caused the skin of my penis to permanently turn a lighter shape in areas. Regardless, I could be in a wheelchair and have no sex life, so I am still a lucky man.


Thanks,
Z-Man.

[dancingdoc2]

A lube is great for just grazing along the surface; however, have you tried lubricating in order to prevent the chafing yet gripping harder in order to stimulate the deep seated nerve endings that seem to be the key to your success. I'd give that a try.

[Brandye]

Lube and friction are opposite things. There are things to use in the vagina that give better or less friction reduction but you evidently need the robustness of a hand.

I admire your persevering and leading as normal a life as possible.