whats wrong with me?

[ggkronicgg]

uhm...hi.....im new here. Anyways i've been with my girl for 3 years now(by the way im only 17) and i have this little problem. when we first started having sex(about a year ago) i was able to last for ever, at one point i dont think i was even able to climax. Now we both graduated and i moved away from all my friends and she went off to college. and every week when i go to see her we have sex. But the weird thing is im only able to last like.....say.....3 minutes. last week was the worst, almost 30 seconds into intercourse i climaxed in less then 30 seconds.i even tried for a second round, and still the same thing happened. im so depressed i dont even wanna do it anymore. whats wrong with me?

[dlb]

Being inside your GF's vagina or mouth feels way better than your hand-not that I have been inside your GF, but you know what I mean
Even if you masturbate regularly the anticipation of being with her and being intimate with her after so long can cause you to pop your top really quickly.

When you are able to be with her try to arrange for longer sessions or, suggest to her that she give you a blowjob or a handjob before coitus. That way after you orgasm if you lose your erection you can give her some really great foreplay and get her really close to orgasm before you penetrate her vagina. Tell her why you want to do it this way. Presumably you want to last longer in order to give her more pleasure. She will probably be receptive. She might even tell you to not worry about it, just cum whenever you feel like it. In that case just enjoy. Once the performance concern is off your mind you might last forever-and if you don't who cares?

Oh, and if you start off with a BJ or HJ and are still hard after you cum take advantage of that lingering erection. Those can lead to some of the hottest, wildest, longest lasting sex you'll ever have.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Here is a partial copy of a p/m I sent to a fellow earlier today:

Premature Ejaculation-
This is the bane of most young men up thru their mid twenties. It can happen any time to anyone on a temporary and transitory basis for the rest of our lives. Here is a link:

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

There are four excellent procedures a man or couple can use to control his climax.
1. Masturbation up to an hour or so before making love
2. The squeeze technique that works very well in the here and now
3. The exercise that trains the brain how to remain alert to the sensations we experience while becoming aroused. While this part of the brain is "conscious" and alert, being able to make a decision to pause the action.
4. Start 'n Stop works well particularly if you go through the training exercise, above, so you are able to recognize the sensations associated with a climax.

Chapter Four:
MORE: From bungling student to graduating Lover Cum Laude
Scroll down to this chapter.

There are two keys to your success; first, being able to associate specific sensations with a pending climax; two, being able to make a conscious decision to pause the action until the sense of urgency subsides. This can be difficult because when we are in the throws of passion and rapture, we are also being driven to complete the act, so we often just say what the heck and do not stop until it is too late. Once the deed is done, we "wake up" and realize that we could have stopped but did not and then get mad at ourselves.

This is not unlike being on a diet, deciding not to snack between meals or raid the refrigerator; then, during a commercial while watching TV, we get up, walk into the kitchen, raid the refrig., walk back into the living room, sit down, eat the snack, then not even remembering you walked into the kitchen, realize what just happened yet were powerless to prevent the raid until after the fact. The training exercise is meant to help overcome this problem. As noted, it takes both of you working together.

Please read the linked articles. Three minutes in really not bad. You have cause to be concerned if you only last moments to a minute or so as this is Premature Ejaculation. Climaxing later is simply an untimely event. Either way, the fixes are the same. Most women report that if intercourse lasts longer than ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired.

There is nothing wrong with you that training and conditioning will not fix. I recommend that you and your girlfriend devote some time on your weekends to practicing the exercise described. It may take a bit longer to master just because your together time is limited, yet master it is a good step forward.

Lastly, please look at the links listed in the Index. There is some good reading there.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

try not to think about having your penis in her vagina, not sure if its a mental mind thing or not true.
i find that if i think about it going in and out of her vagina, i do cum more easily, breathing and how fast you go can control your lower body i believe