I cum after a few thrusts - very unsatisfying

[Jiffylube854]

Whenever I do a few thrusts in a row, I always cum. I can easily prevent myself from cumming, by doing like 3 thrusts and then stopping for a minute, and doing this we can have sex as long as we want, but that's VERY unsatisfying. I used to be able to just pound away for 15 min if I wanted to, and both me and my girlfriend loved this.

I'm not sure if this is premature ejaculation or not, because I can easily recognize the feeling and stop early so I don't cum. Also, if I concentrate REALLY hard on unsexy stuff like roadkill or prime numbers, I can usually last a little longer (say 20 thrusts instead of 5). But that's profoundly unsatisfying too.

The weird thing is, this happens even after I've cum just 20 minutes before! The feelings just build up SO quickly.

What's going on? Why would this have changed for me? What can I do to be able to go back to my old self?

[sera300]

I am not a man; however, have you changed anything? Added work outs? meds? Supplements? Masturbated less or more? Maybe you have a great deal of testosterone hitting you? And that combined with emotions can, well, make a change.

Try masturbating frequently or before you see her & see if that helps. Look under the thread of "squeezing techniques"...http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/sexu...ulation-2.html

Perhaps the degree of excitement & stimulation is too much for you. I know some younger men have to change their focus to "things" [much like what you described] to last longer.

Additionally, try focusing on her alone [her enjoyment] & not on what you are feeling/enjoying until you can postpone an orgasm. I have only found this with younger men; also stopping and performing oral on her for a bit and then returning to intercourse may help.

Or work out multiple sessions...

[Ducy]

Wait I dont understand. You cum within a few thrusts but if you stop for a minute and start again, you can go on forever?

I dont really understand how going forever can be unsatisfying unles you do not cum at all. You could always work it out so you go on for as long as she needs to and then stop and have her go down on you.

Or why dont you try entering and then wait there for a minute, kiss and such, then start thrusting. Perhaps that will even everything out.

Personally if I am masturbating, and stop for a minute as I get close, I have a simliar problem. I will wind up masturbatin another half hour before I cum and its a pretty mellow orgasm.

[Brandye]

Ducy,

He/They do not like the stop and go. He wants to be able to maintain a rhythm.

Try different positions. Often the muscle tension in other parts of the body can trigger this.

[Ducy]

Wow I cant believe I missed that haha. My mistake brandye. I was thinking he meant he had to go for a few, stop for a minute and then could go forever. I wasnt thinking he needed to keep doing the start and stop.

Sorry jiffy I dditn realize thats what you mean

[DanielScott]

I suggest doing some PC exercises. That will help you get control of your orgasms (plus make them better when you do come!).

Also, when you're inside her, just flex your penis and she'll hit the roof, if your PC exercises are good enough.

[dancingdoc2]

1. Premature Ejaculation is generally described as when a man climaxes within the first minute or so after penetration: the initial insertion, the first or second return stroke, or during the first few strokes.

What you are experiencing is an untimely or unplanned climax and this manifests itself in the same way. The fix for both are the Squeeze technique or the training exercise described in one of the articles in the Index.

2. If you want to prolong stroking, try modulating your movements until the sense of urgency subsides, rather than stopping the action altogether.

3. For repeat performances, you might try limiting or eliminating all the foreplay and just go for the stroking. This should keep your sensitivity low and lessen the tendency to climax from a light caress or a couple of strokes.