Early Ejactuation

[Yariome]

Just what it says, i'm having more and more troubles with it. Me and my girlfriend usually foreplay for about 10 min on each other, and then onto intercourse. Once we engage I feel like I can only go a few min and it's getting worse, I used to be able to got 20-30 min with ease. I've tried the start and stop method, I jack off before sex an hour or so before. Sadly I can't go to the doc because no health insurance as of right now, so any other suggestions?

[dancingdoc2]

Hi there,
You've been participating in the forums for a few months, haven't you read through the Index?

> Just what it says, i'm having more and more troubles with it.

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

> Me and my girlfriend usually foreplay for about 10 min on each other, and then onto intercourse.

How long do the two of you generally make out before moving to foreplay? I ask because unlike with the male of the species who can be aroused and ready for sex by the mere thought or prospect, women require time and some effort on our part in order to prepare them and build their level of ardor. Sexperts state that a minimum of ten minutes of foreplay is required and that twenty minute and more is highly advisable. All this follows a make out session consisting of Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting that adds even more time to the process.

There seems to be a common misconception nowadays especially among young men that the way to sexual bliss is through a brief bit of manual or oral stimulation just to get wet and firm so they can rush to a climax by whatever means. A good ol' fashioned make out session before progressing to foreplay is either not much a part of the process or if it is, consisting of a few brief kisses and caresses before frantically struggling to get undressed! A person's skin is his/her LARGEST sex organ. Because it is, why not treat it with the same importance as breasts and genitalia? For those of you in the audience reading this wanting more information on the how-to's of sex, this is Sex Ed. 100 and is what you must know and understand before learning all about 101 and the advanced classes.

KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION

Please scroll down and read Chapter Three, first, and return to the top of the article and read Chapter One, second.

INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST

> Once we engage I feel like I can only go a few min and it's getting worse, I used to be able to got 20-30 min with ease.

An "early ejaculation" is one thing; "Premature Ejaculation" is another, although, both have the same end and the same cures.

PE is generally defined as having a climax within the first minute of penetration. This might be during the initial inward stroke, the return, or sometime during the next few. A climax that occurs after this is simply an untimely event.

> I've tried the start and stop method, I jack off before sex an hour or so before.

These are valid and recommended techniques. So too is the Squeeze technique that Brandye recommends. I believe it is an excellent method in the here and now; however, I recommend mastering the exercise, both described in the first link, as a long term fix. Please keep in mind that many women report becoming sore, tired, and bored if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes. If the two of you desire to extend and prolong the activity, I recommend doing it in multiple stages. Pull out every once in a while, continue making out and foreplay, then go again, etc. This is a good way for each of you to experience multiple orgasms when desired.

[Yariome]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

> Me and my girlfriend usually foreplay for about 10 min on each other, and then onto intercourse.

How long do the two of you generally make out before moving to foreplay? I ask because unlike with the male of the species who can be aroused and ready for sex by the mere thought or prospect, women require time and some effort on our part in order to prepare them and build their level of ardor. Sexperts state that a minimum of ten minutes of foreplay is required and that twenty minute and more is highly advisable. All this follows a make out session consisting of Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting that adds even more time to the process.

We tend to make out for a good few minutes, 5-10 depending n her mood, then onto foreplay, I don't consider making out foreplay it's more of a warming up to the idea.

There seems to be a common misconception nowadays especially among young men that the way to sexual bliss is through a brief bit of manual or oral stimulation just to get wet and firm so they can rush to a climax by whatever means. A good ol' fashioned make out session before progressing to foreplay is either not much a part of the process or if it is, consisting of a few brief kisses and caresses before frantically struggling to get undressed! A person's skin is his/her LARGEST sex organ. Because it is, why not treat it with the same importance as breasts and genitalia? For those of you in the audience reading this wanting more information on the how-to's of sex, this is Sex Ed. 100 and is what you must know and understand before learning all about 101 and the advanced classes.

Yeah, and I do massage her ect while making out, as well as during foreplay. She tends to to like to be on top while we make out so I gently lift up her shirt and give her a back massage. And I agree, I don't like quickies, in fact I hate them. I love having long sex in my opinion those are the best orgasms for me, and also make me feel better as a person and more confident knowing she enjoyed it for a long period of time. So I know confidence isn't the issue.

> I've tried the start and stop method, I jack off before sex an hour or so before.

These are valid and recommended techniques. So too is the Squeeze technique that Brandye recommends. I believe it is an excellent method in the here and now; however, I recommend mastering the exercise, both described in the first link, as a long term fix. Please keep in mind that many women report becoming sore, tired, and bored if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes. If the two of you desire to extend and prolong the activity, I recommend doing it in multiple stages. Pull out every once in a while, continue making out and foreplay, then go again, etc. This is a good way for each of you to experience multiple orgasms when desired.

Right, i'm not sure entirely what the squeeze method is, unless it's quite literally squezing our penis until you feel like you aren't going to orgasm when close to climax. I suppose i'll give it a try, as well as read over those, and no I have read some of the index columns but not all and wasn't aware of these particular articles. I'll read through them, give it a try and report back see if I can get anymore suggestions.

[Yariome]

Also may I add, I can control it when she is on top, it is mostly when she asks me to go faster when she is close to her own orgasm. Not faster as in burning friction, but you know the idea, and that's when I usually lose control because i'm too busy trying to please her I lose control and that's that. Like I said it's mostly when i'm on top, or when she is close to orgasm and I go faster, SOMETIMES i can control it, but it's rather difficult

[dancingdoc2]

Thanks for the nice reply. You've touched on the problem and I've described a fix; although, I'm not certain you have put the two together.

> We tend to make out for a good few minutes, 5-10 depending n her mood, then onto foreplay, I don't consider making out foreplay it's more of a warming up to the idea.

> Me and my girlfriend usually foreplay for about 10 min on each other, and then onto intercourse.

Twenty minutes is not long enough for either making out or foreplay as far as a woman is concerned (unless you are already randy and in want of a proverbial "Quickie"); and, you will directly benefit from the extended play, also. For starters, plan on at least forty five minutes total, divided between the two before moving on to intercourse and see if this begins to improve the situation.

> I can control it when she is on top, it is mostly when she asks me to go faster when she is close to her own orgasm...and that's when I usually lose control because i'm too busy trying to please her I lose control and that's that.

A second major contributor to this is when you strain while elevating your hips to meet her as she strokes up and down, and to a lesser degree, grinding. One possible fix is to finger her beforehand and/or during intercourse in order to get her "primed" so that much less bouncing or stroking or grinding is required as well as less straining on your part. The muscle tension in the lower abdomen along the root structure of the penis is what is most likely stimulating your climax.

[Yariome]

Well I tried makin gout more, and she wasn't too fond of it. But it was worth the try, I did however start masturbating daily this week, and we had sex Friday night and she was the one begging me to bust because she couldn't take anymore. In other words I felt more like I used to. So I guess I will continue to masturbate more regarly and hope this helps. Appreciate the help!

[dancingdoc2]

Please keep us posted on how things continue to work out with the two of you.