staying hard after an orgasm

[hehehe]

I was wondering if Viagra would keep me hard after an orgasm? Cause i don't last long in bed and i cant find any solutions. If i could stay hard longer, When i orgasm wouldn't really matter cause it wouldn't stop me from continuing till she was satisfied.

thanks for any help

[Brandye]

Not necessarily. These drugs work by affecting a valve that keeps blood in the sacs that fill up to make an erection. There are many other parts that can become fatigued. This will vary from man to man.

If you do not need help to begin with, there is more harm than good from taking sedinafil.

Do her first and then do not worry about it.

[dancingdoc2]

> I was wondering if Viagra would keep me hard after an orgasm? Cause i don't last long in bed and i cant find any solutions.

Please clarify. Are these two separate issues, or the same?

As for lasting long(er), please read this informative article:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

Loosing an erection is not really a big deal unless you make it one and for all the wrong reasons. Very often we read about this when a guy writes in devastated and bewildered that this is happening. It will from time to time to all of us. The reason is should not be a big deal is that it is one very good way to prolong and extend lovemaking. Think of the fun y'all can have as she rebuilds it!

> When i orgasm wouldn't really matter cause it wouldn't stop me from continuing till she was satisfied.**

Here is an important fact you may not be aware of. Very few sexual positions provide the continuous body contact necessary to generate the necessary friction to build arousal and eventually trigger an orgasm. With this in mind, what a knowledgeable, caring, skillful, lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner while stroking away.

As Brandye recommends, take care of her, first; you second, and her third--if it is her wish. A few decades ago it was all the rage for a couple to try and have simultaneous orgasms. This was a guy thing and guys obsessed over this, yet as more and more acquired some Sex Ed., they came to understand how impractical a goal this was. Nice if it happens, yet do not hold your breath.

Another fact of life is that we do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve his/hers.

** Do not focus on orgasms; focus instead on your interactions with each other. The orgasms will come when they come. As nice as they are, they shouldn't be the goal. Do not overlook, minimize, or become distracted, along the journey to the destination. Both are important. The same goes for racing to the "destination" instead of taking a leisurely "ride".

BOTTOM LINE: Erection or not, your finger is deft, "erect and stiff", and can be used in many wonderful ways to help her enjoy as many orgasms as she is willing to have. You can have an ejaculation without benefit of an erection, so if you do fail to get it back, do not fret, just keep on keeping on. Multiples are fun to pursue once in a while. She can usually have two an many more within moments of the previous. Guys on the other hand have to wait 10-30 minutes in between any two. Just keep the fires burning and work within these parameters.

[2beloved]

It depends on your age I dated a guy that when after I did oral on him within 2 minutes of him getting on top he would cum so I got nothing and I don't know why that happen, you may need to ask a doctor about that.

[hehehe]

> I was wondering if Viagra would keep me hard after an orgasm? Cause i don't last long in bed and i cant find any solutions.

Please clarify. Are these two separate issues, or the same?

Lasting long in bed is the problem and im thinking viagra could be a solution.

The girl im dating doesn't get very many orgasms and shes fine with that cause she still really enjoys intercourse. And the way she likes it makes it extra hard for me to last long cause she likes it hard and fast all the time. Shes not the type to like the gentle loving. And i want to last longer cause sometimes thats all she wants is sex. And if it only last a lil, its not very fun for the both of us. I want to continue for much longer. I do all the foreplay stuff, i read and reserched everything to make me better to compansate for how long i last. But we both want to have long and exhausting sex. She just gets started when im done even if i do some forepay before intercoarse. And i tryed and read all that stuff about Squeeze & Training Exercise and i haven't seened any results.
And belive me im good with my fingers so i have been told. and i use my fingers to get things started. But thats just for play its not the same as actual penis penetration. Its not exacly a problem yet that i dont last long but evantually it can become one.

[HeavenSeeker]

Like your girlfriend, I too enjoy intercourse, in fact often moreover the orgasm. However, your girlfriend also needs to do some self research in finding out what makes her go over the edge to reach ultimate exctasy. This cannot be laid on you alone, your energy, your stamina and your performance. She needs to 'man up' to the situation as well and become somewhat responsible for her own pleasure.
Perhaps you can implement some toys into your sexual experiences, so that you can continue on with her sexual pleasure after you have gave her what you've got for round 1. Explore with your fingers as you have been, mix it up with some aggressive oral if that's what she's into, alot of touching and caressing, some dildo work, and the more she enjoys it, it's likely you will find yourself hard and ready for the next round in no time at all, so then you may enter her again.
There is alot of responsibility put onto the man, I realize this, and I think it's unfair. Each man can only do what they are capable of, and if you quit worrying so much about achieving the 'ultimate' and rather concentrate on yourself and your partner in the moment, taking it as it comes, you will learn to listen to yourself, to her body and to what you need to do. Things like this can take time, and being open and honest with your partner, you both can open up to trying new things that will help both of you adapt and achieve what you're both looking for.