Penis hurts after sex - recent problems...

[zak062]

First off i'd like to say that im not new to sex. I've had two past sexual relationships(3 total) and im sure i've hit the 100 mark.

Recently with this newish relationship i've been having problems getting up and staying up. I knew this girl for six months before i dated her. We decided to have sex 3 weeks into the relationship. I know it was rushing it but it was a spur of the moment thing. The first time we had sex i had NO problems what so ever. We had waited two weeks before trying to have sex again and then the problems arose. I cant really get a full erection and if i do, it takes a long time and its not really hard. Now what really concerns me is if i do get it in. After sex or even climaxing my penis will hurt a great deal. Now lets say i climax twice that day for whatever reason... My penis will feel like it will fall off. The pain is intesified if im aroused the least bit. I've been having the problem for over a month now. Im starting to think it may be a medical condition of some sort. I know this isn't normal for an 18 year old so please, help.

[Ducy]

Did you use a condom? Sounds to me like you may have caught something in this spur of the moment thing...or you couldnt have injured yourself...Im sure doc, or brandye should be able to shed a bit more light onto this.

[zak062]

i always use a condom.

[sera300]

Okay if you use condoms, is that part of the issue? Is this similar to a case of "Blue Balls"? What happens if you masturbate? Are you okay and function fine?

[dancingdoc2]

> Recently with this newish relationship i've been having problems getting up and staying up. The first time we had sex i had NO problems what so ever. We had waited two weeks before trying to have sex again and then the problems arose. I cant really get a full erection and if i do, it takes a long time and its not really hard.

Hello Zak,
How hard are your spontaneous erections? Are you hard during masturbation?

When making out, do you get hard or just so-so?

What are you (two) doing to get a full firm erection? I ask because "getting up and staying up" hinge on mutual chemistry and attraction as well as physical arousal. How much time are the two of you devoting to making out and fooling around (Necking and Petting)?

If masturbation is working OK for you, then I'm inclined to believe that there is either a lack of chemistry and pheromones flying in the air between you; OR, that the two of you are not adequately seeing to your arousal before intercourse begins.

A lot of guys nowadays "operate" under the misconception that little making out is required and the way to build arousal is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking. This is not only wrong, it's backwards. A guy should be on the raw edge of a climax before intercourse begins. If you are not, then this might be a major part of your difficulty--depending upon how you answer the other questions.

> Now what really concerns me is if i do get it in. After sex or even climaxing my penis will hurt a great deal. Now lets say i climax twice that day for whatever reason... My penis will feel like it will fall off. The pain is intesified if im aroused the least bit. I've been having the problem for over a month now. Im starting to think it may be a medical condition of some sort. I know this isn't normal for an 18 year old so please, help.

The pain can be one of two things:
T#1: The type of pain we experience as a result of injury
T#2: Hypersensitivity as when the nerves are overly stimulated.

If you sustained a physical trauma to the shaft or glans then this will answer the first condition. The second happens when in the company of a lover (not generally when alone) and occurs immediately after climaxing. The sensation manifests itself as pain, although, it really isn't because no injury was sustained. The hypersensitivity will subside and go away after several minutes. Which of these are you experiencing?

> The pain is intesified if im aroused the least bit.

This sounds like the first type.

> Im starting to think it may be a medical condition of some sort. I know this isn't normal for an 18 year old so please, help.

If the pain is physical, then you may have sustained an injury as might occur when jamming your penis against her; or, by bumping it against her in some way while stroking. Either can happen and age plays not part. If this is what it is, then I recommend a visit to your doctor to have it checked out.

[zak062]

dancingdoc-

I really dont try masturbating but if i do for what ever reason, it is pretty soft and not full. I dont even get any morning uh ohs anymore.

There is plenty of foreplay before the sex, at least 30min to 45min worth. Now i dont get aroused when making out.. i use to before all the problems.

[Ducy]

I usually go through times when I cant get it up, or when I go to masturbate its not very hard, but mine is due to meds and depression so....yea...but for you, Go to the doc....thats honestly the best advice....more then likely id say a urologist since thats their specialty. internal med doc may be able to help (except they usually dont know enough specifics to solve the problem)