Self Esteem, Libido, What To Do?!?!

[Ducy]

Alright, so let me start off by saying, I am an average guy....Im not masculine but not annorexic. I have a fairly high libido, and with my girlfriend, my self esteem has been through the roof. I account this to the fact that my girlfriend has basically boosted it through the roof. From her complimenting me (always thought I was tiny but she says my member is huge) and from me always being able to please her through manual oral and sexual stimulation.

Well we were at the movies about 3 weeks, she slapped me...playfully of course, and I told her I wasnt into being dominated. Well she laughed and was like yeah right, tell me you want me in you. (I asked her to tell me that the night before cuz we were about to have sex, and I like when she talks dirty.) Well I laughed but I felt very very embarassed .

Later that night, I was like what would you do if I showed up wearing nothing but a trench coat for christmas. Well shes like IDK would you put a bow on your little woohoo. Well we laughed (although I was a bit embarassed again) and I was like what happened to it being so big, and she was like well you know what I mean, its just that its small at times. (she was referring to it when its flaccid but still) and then like I got a bit sad cuz it was a blow to my ego. (which was never big...no pun intended) Well she basically was just like get over it you know what I meant I do think your big. But the damage had been done.

Then about 2 weeks ago, I asked her if she would shave so I could go down on her and shes like oh well I already did but I dont like when you do that. I was kinda surprised cuz like for the last 4 months she has said she likes it (and Ive asked her on a few occassions) and so I asked her what else she didnt like and she just said "I dont wanna talk about it now, I wasnt really expecting it and Im not prepared."

So I was a little upset since she has basically lied to me for 4 months now, and like now whenever I think about sex, or we start fooling around, Im just like bleh Usually Ill take my shirt off during a heavy make out session, but like I cant stand to be in shirtless around her, I feel uncomfortable when she tries to please me, and I feel totally lost when trying to please her. Its like my self esteem and confidence in bed has gone out the window. I dont know what to do, and its killing me because I have always been a sexual person and now that Im not, I kinda feel like IDK who I am.

How do I get through this?

I mean tonight were hangin out, and its just gonna be me and her all night and I know that if we dont have sex itll definitely be a major fooling around session since we havent seen each other in almost a week and a half. And just the thought of this is making my confidence shrink more, and I feel and look as if it is very very very "cold outside"

Sorry for it being such a long post, but does anybody have any suggestions, I mean anything whether it be something so simple as BFD she poked fun at you get over it, or just a suggestion on how to get back to my usual self confident lover attitude.

[sera300]

DO the stuff Evil suggests...body worshiping...make her beg for you. Be confident and make her want you until she is about to scream. Give her oral, she'll like it...tell her too damned bad! She's pushing you, now deliver.

[Ducy]

I guess its worth a shot. I mean she does like it when I dominate her...Like IDK how far but I know she likes it. Its just hard cuz like since she didnt tell me what else she doesnt like I mean I dont want to be fingering her then after she be like Ehh it was ok...

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ducy

I guess its worth a shot. I mean she does like it when I dominate her...Like IDK how far but I know she likes it. Its just hard cuz like since she didnt tell me what else she doesnt like I mean I dont want to be fingering her then after she be like Ehh it was ok...

Push it w/her. Dominate her, follow her signals & make her tell you it feels good...or you stop.

[Ducy]

Well ill try it tonight....I mean yea my confidece is shot but hey...ive always been good at faking confidence

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ducy

Well ill try it tonight....I mean yea my confidece is shot but hey...ive always been good at faking confidence

It's shot by her behavior to you. Make her behave, make her tell you she wants X or Y...not so nice but be more demanding when you have her worked up...you are the "King" so rule!

[Ducy]

Ha...well my rule is over...I was talking to her a few minutes ago and I was just talking to her and asked her what she liked...(wasnt going to start dominating cuz she was off to work) and shes just like IDk and im like what do you mean...shes just like IDK I just dont wanna do anything and I dont wanna talk about it....its like WTF!?!?! So I guess it doesnt really matter that I am totally lost, cuz I have no reason to try to find my way.

I really hope I can blame this sudden change on her period....It should be starting soon.

[sera300]

With her like that coupled by her behavior last week, I'd back off and be pretty cool to her. Let her indirectly know her treatment of you is not acceptable. And to expect respect form her...or she can hit the highway.

[HardNgood]

dump her and move on

[Ducy]

Originally Posted by HardNgood

dump her and move on

Cant do it....maybe if this was like for a really long time (at least for as long as were together so 8 months) then maybe...but for like 3 weeks no...Now that I have been talking about and thinking about it, I dunno if its as bad as i make it seem, cuz i have been taking vicadin for some surgery i had done, and i think its ****ing with my welbutrin...which is basically low low low dose happy pills lol so hopefully once my vicadin is gone itll be normal.