I love my wife very much, How do I fix this problem?

[Shhhh]

Hello all, as I stated above, I love my wife dearly. We've been married for 5 years now... but unfortunately I am just awful at the physical act of love. I would say I'm fairly good at pleasuring her orally, but when it's time to "perform" for lack of a better term I can't last more than a few seconds. It's so embarrasing. I enter her, maybe a couple of thrusts (if I'm really really lucky)... then boom.

I hear women make fun of men for that all the time. She tells me it doesn't bother her, but I fear she's just sparing my feelings.

Do any of you folks have any suggestions of things I can try to perform better? or last longer? Obviously I'm never gonna be a porn star, but I wouldn't mind being able to last a few minutes or anything.

The worst part... I'm only 26, so my wife is sentenced to a lifetime of disappointment.

Thanks for your time.

[foxdan]

Sex in the end of the day is not all about penetration, we all get excited at different levels,
My first second time I would come so fast it was scary, with time my “stamina” built up with time it should improve.

[Zan]

Try the squeeze technique as in docs post and/or see your doctor, dont be shy, many men have same issue, and doctors have heard/seen it all before.

[Brandye]

The squeeze technique is a wonderful suggestion. Other positions may be helpful - some men last longer on top and others on bottom. And there is always the possibility that she is telling the truth and really does not need a longer time with you inside her.

[sera300]

Have you ever thought about seeing a doctor about the issue? It's something obviously bothersome to you, it might be worthwhile getting an evaluation and seeing what a doctor can offer you.

[Sirene]

Originally Posted by Zan

Try the squeeze technique as in docs post and/or see your doctor, dont be shy, many men have same issue, and doctors have heard/seen it all before.

I hadnt had sex for a full weekend once, then on the sunday we did it, i could feel I was going to cum soon so i grabbed it & squeezed, it just made me cum straight away. It doesnt work.

[Zan]

it does work, i thought it didnt work properly first few times i tired it too, but after a lil more practice i found it helps a great deal, you just have to do it right, practice helps with all things.

[ChiliPepper]

The above suggestions are great, but I would say that your actual lovemaking can get better if you spend a LOT of time with foreplay, and getting both of you aroused before actually having sex. Not only that, but with sexual frequency you can also improve your 'stamina'.

In this scenario, I would definately say practice makes perfect - give it time and dont sell yourself short. Believe me, most women would rather have a man who CAN pleasure them in other ways - many women 'suffer' with men who will not give oral, and who only worry about penetration.

You sound like you want to please her, and honestly - thats the best kind of partner.

[Sirene]

Originally Posted by Zan

it does work, i thought it didnt work properly first few times i tired it too, but after a lil more practice i found it helps a great deal, you just have to do it right, practice helps with all things.

I dont usually have the problem so i wont really be getting practice.
Its only really when i've gone without for a while & its all built up & everythings extra sensitive.

[dancingdoc2]

This is such a common theme on this Board that a Sticky post addressing the problem has been prepared. Please read it.

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation