bad experience

[OriginalVeteran]

right then, im still young but when i was 16 i met this chik she was older than i. I imagine maybe 26-28 she thought i was older.
It was a one nighter everything was fine after about 20 minutes i started to go soft, she kept asking me "whats up" lol my response was i was tired, i dont know what it was,
That was about 18 months ago its been plauging me and ive been fearfull of having sex since, its really done some damage. i dont have a problem meeting chicks ive been told im extremly attractive and charming however im curious how i should overcome these issues
i think one posssible reason, im not one of these loads that can **** anything, for me to be aroused its more about the emotional connection not the stimulation maybe cause i didnt know her?

to summarise its totally ****ed me up

[OriginalVeteran]

come on awnser, your input will be highly aprreciated

[sera300]

Wait until you find someone who you emotionally connect w/ and have genuine feelings for, then have sex. This is the down side to being sexually involved w/someone you don't have feeling for; some can do it and some cannot. You apparently need to have a connection w/another, so wait until you find her.

[Sirene]

I used to have this problem.
I found it good to get involved with a chick & hold off having sex for a while, like a little foreplay which gets deeper into it, until you eventually have sex with them.
I've been in a relationship about 6mts before we actually had sex.
It gets better as the years go on, & your count of women moves up.
Now im able to have sex within the first week or so of meeting them without freaking out.

[OriginalVeteran]

Thanks for your expenditure

[Godiva]

Just adding on to what Sera and Sirene have stated if that doesn't seem to be the issue.

If you don't smoke this doesn't apply, but smoking can cause you to have difficulties maintaining an erection.

Also, if you're on certain medications it can hinder your ability to get an erection.

[OriginalVeteran]

I think its more psycological to be honest cause it wouldnt explain why i was ok for 20 minutes or so then lost it, but regarding the advice people have told me to find someone i have a connection with.

the problem is, im fearfull of it happening again thats why i havent done that maybe ill just do it but what if it happens again ill be without it for the rest of my life lol