nervousness affecting pleasure?

[needadvice]

i had sex for the first time a couple of weeks ago. my girlfriend and i were on her bed and started fooling around. i gave her oral head, i put on the condom and began having sex. i didn't feel anything. i mean, i felt everything but the pleasure. is this normal. i was feeling extremely nervous and uncomfortable. i was also saying to myself...oh, maybe i'm not gonna feel it throughout the whole time. friends tell me i was weirding myself out. after about five minutes i told her and we stopped. is this normal?

[sk1983]

Well, it could be your nervousness and the fact that your body doesn't know how to orgasm through sex. I went through something very similar my first time, and still kinda do, but nowadays its different.

First thing is to just relax. Meditate, burn some relaxing incense, breathe, and avoid alcohol and drugs. Make this little bit a part of foreplay.

Second thing is to not think so much. Yeah, turning off the brain is about as easy as not breathing, but the less you focus on what could possibly be wrong, the better the sensation of sex will be. Think positively.

Third thing is to communicate with your partner. Talk the nervousness out. It will help.