Couldn't cum

[casparwhittey]

I had sex for the first time yesterday morning, and could not cum. I was super hard the entire time, and it felt good, but I never felt like I was going to climax. At first I thought it was a good thing because I had always worried about my stamina (when I masturbate I usually come in <2 min), but after 30 min of sex, I was worried, so after she left, I masturbated and was able to cum. Is it normal to not cum sometimes when having sex?

[Openmindedguy]

Originally Posted by casparwhittey

I had sex for the first time yesterday morning, and could not cum. I was super hard the entire time, and it felt good, but I never felt like I was going to climax. At first I thought it was a good thing because I had always worried about my stamina (when I masturbate I usually come in <2 min), but after 30 min of sex, I was worried, so after she left, I masturbated and was able to cum. Is it normal to not cum sometimes when having sex?

Have a few drinks and you can go on for hours, stress can do the same thing and sometimes you just lose the sensitivity, particularly if you have been together a while and have had sex during the night.

[browneyedgirl]

This is actually a pretty common problem that guys can have when they loose their virginity. There are a couple reasons that you could not be orgasming. One reason is that you just aren't accustomed to sex yet and so you haven't really learned the ropes of getting yourself to orgasm this way, while you've most likely had years of practice masturbating and learned exactly how to get yourself off this way.

Another possibility is that you were just stressed out and worrying about it being good for her, so you weren't able to relax and experience pleasure. Once you start thinknig about that, then you'll start worrying, "Oh my god, there's something wrong with me, this is probably awful for her...." and that will just stress you out more. It's pretty difficult to reach orgasm if you aren't relaxed.

There is also the possibility that you take a while to orgasm via sex. Some men are done in a minute or less, some last around 5 to ten minutes, some last a half hour, some can go for an hour or two. Just because you weren't there in a half hour doesn't necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with you or that you are doing anything wrong.

Then, as openminded suggested, there are things like drinking alcohol that can delay orgasm or make it impossible to reach orgasm.

So... don't worry. You'll get the hang of sex after a while and you will be able to orgasm.

[Raidenator]

I remember my first time(s) having sex I would have the same problem. I would recommend some different positions because when I had the problem the "original" positions didn't seem to work as well. To put it bluntly I would recommend doggy style. It seems to give the most pleasure for myself so you may find the same thing.

Good luck.

[new_neo]

hey i agree with the views of browneyedgirl as may be due to the stress or due to masturbating over the years have taught u the ways to get u off easily ...all this can be taken care off if u talk about this with ur partner as what makes u feel better which will eventualy lead u to have better sex and good cumm......

[unknown11]

relax and have fun with it. i couldnt come at all with my first g/f but now im with someone else who is more experianced and more openminded, she can make me come within minutes when she wants me to.

[cyclefreak]

Originally Posted by Raidenator

I remember my first time(s) having sex I would have the same problem. I would recommend some different positions because when I had the problem the "original" positions didn't seem to work as well. To put it bluntly I would recommend doggy style. It seems to give the most pleasure for myself so you may find the same thing.

Good luck.

I LOVE doggy style.