It hurts a little bit when I come

[TonyB]

Sometimes when I cum it hurts. It only happens if it's been a few days. If I just came a few days ago it doesn't hurt. However if I go for a few days (sometimes weeks) there's this burning sensation when I ejaculate. Is this normal?

I'll still masturbate on a semi-daily basis but I won't let myself ejaculate. This is all for my wife's sake. She likes big loads so I hold off from ejaculating and continue to masturbate (as I hear that the stimulation helps increase sperm production). Not only that but when we have sex I can control myself pretty well. I could actually go for the whole night and pretty much cum whenever I choose to(woo-hoo for me, huh?), but this involves bringing myself close to climax then backing off. I don't know if it's normal but I actually enjoy sex itself more than actually orgasming.

When I finally let myself come while having sex or masturbating it burns a little bit on it's way out. The pain hits with each "pump" and eventually goes away after I'm done. I don't know if it's the shear volume of the cum or it's consistency (it gets rather thick and sometimes really chunky). Usually after about a week I have a decent sized load. Think of your above-average porn flick pop shot - usually about 4-6 quarter to half inch thick ribbons 10-12 inches long. Not sure how much that is in volume measurements (cumming into a measuring cup somehow seems unappealing to me). As it only happens under these conditions it doesn't bother me much. But I'm sure the final moment would feel a lot better if it wasn't stinging on it's way out.

Any advice, guys or girls? If it's relevant at all I'm 22, male of course, and Asian.

[NizeGie]

If you want the reliable answer, talk to your doctor - maybe not a special visit or anything, but at your next check up. But, just for reference:

Occasionally, when I've really drawn things out (get close, back off, get close, back off ... etc ...) for a long time (like hours), I've had a little bit of pain which, as you say, occurs with each pump. I wouldn't describe it as a burning sensation, though. More like a crampy or sharpish localized stingy pain down in the vicinity of the balls.

I just figured that it was a simple matter of over-working the mechanism. It didn't strike me as particularly worrisome. It doesn't occur any other time, everything works fine, and all the usual tests come back clean.

My only suggestion is: if you want to prolong the session, do it by coming twice, rather than drawing one out so far that it gets ridiculous. You can probably go as long as anyone could possibly want on the second one, with relatively minimal efforts at self-control. Unfortunately, this doesn't do much for your wife's desire for a huge load ... maybe you can convince her to cumulate the two?