Wives vs Fleshlights

[Infamous Ob]

This is a big question thats just been bothering me every since I 1st showed my Wife about Fleshlights. I'm all about doing research when i comes to sex. Toys, Positions, etc. So I showed her the FL's and I asked her what if I bought one. She said she didn't like them and they take away from me and her having sex or whatnot. I said what about when your on your Period. And currently she's pregnant (baby sex is very fun by the way), and what about when she gets a UTI or Yeast, or whatever... So I was on FL's Website and I was reading the reviews and on browsing through their Forum and I noticed other Wives were disliking the Fleshlighs too. I personally just bought a Fleshlight STU, and my Wife that new Sqweel toy from LoveHoney. So I'm going to just surprise her with the toys and see what happens. Besides the other day we were online looking a all types of toys together and we came really close to buying some toys too. so I just wanna know why do Wives dislike Fleshlights?

[Brandye]

Wives = women. Not being the first, the second will do. I am not much into toys and find that another human body has all the interesting facets I need to be satisfied. There is nothing in the world that feels the same as a penis entering me. I cannot imagine that a masturbation enhancer would be as satisfying as the various parts and techniques we use to extract semen from our male partners.

During my periods of cohabiting with males, their needing vagina substitutes would make me wonder how interested they were in what I offered.

Dislike? No. What men do on their own is up to them. With me around, ....

[Infamous Ob]

I understand the "toy" concept and the "not better than my REAL pussy" concept also. I just personally don't see why a so-called "substitute" (which I can or never will substitute my Wife) is a issue. Yeah, men masturbate, and women do too. It's just weird to me... I mean if a woman/wife, etc knows her pussy is that good, then why even get mad or even mention substitution? Just doesn't make sense to me... But oh well, I'm a Male, not a Female. We're totally different in ways the human brain will never grasp...

[Brandye]

... you walk into the bedroom and hear the buzz of the vibrator and her gasp. She rolls over and goes to sleep. When you poke her, she sleepily says, "I have nothing left."

How do you feel?

[tntitans21399]

I don't think it is as big of a issue with married couples. But us single guys it can help, because going out to a bar you spend a lot of money and still come home by ourself or you run the risk of changing something. I think the issue is when you get use to the toy so must that when you have the real thing the real can't compare.

[Infamous Ob]

Originally Posted by Brandye

... you walk into the bedroom and hear the buzz of the vibrator and her gasp. She rolls over and goes to sleep. When you poke her, she sleepily says, "I have nothing left."

How do you feel?

Depends.

Originally Posted by tntitans21399

I don't think it is as big of a issue with married couples. But us single guys it can help, because going out to a bar you spend a lot of money and still come home by ourself or you run the risk of changing something. I think the issue is when you get use to the toy so must that when you have the real thing the real can't compare.

Well, me and my Wife don't own any toys to even have that to go through. But I just bought us some toys. And before I even finally decided on buying any toys, my Wife was already saying how she wasn't into me getting a Fleshlight. Overall, I don't think toys even matter in a Marriage/Relationship. At the end of the day, they're "toys". They can easily be gotten rid of as easy as they were obtained.

[mattc]

I don't have one, thought I have long wanted one. As far as Brandye's comment about wondering how interested they are in what you have to offer some of us have the opposite problem. I would make love to my wife ever day if she would let me, our frequency is more like 2 times a month. If I'm lucky! Am I to just sit there upset or am I to find a release? My hands both work fine, but it gets old. I don't know how my wife would feel if I bought one but I think I should probably talk to her about it.

[PaulB79]

Well Matt, If she loves you and understands you and your libido, she should not mind.
I think communication is the key, and involve her in the purchase of one. Go to your local Adult shop, or try to find a classy one, and go with her. That's what me and my wife did.

Communication is key. I started talking to her about fantasies. At first she smirked, but she accepted the fact that I had some. So, we spoke about my fantasies and I must admit I was shocked that she was not annoyed, or saying NO WAY. She said she loved me and would be willing to try some things, but would be straight forward when her limits we're reached. It comes down to respect and love for each other. Afterwards she accepted my invitation to go to a Erotic store with me.

Once there, We had fun. We looked at everything, communicated to each other on each thing we saw. It was really fun. So, we ended up buying a erotic game called "Discover your Lover", a feather type of tickler that she wanted for massaging and erotic teasing, and she also wanted to buy a butt plug with lubricant. I looked at her and said wow.
I asked her who is that for? she said the both of us.

You see, I just unlocked one of her fantasies, one of mine too, but by going to the store and communication to each other about all subjects and toys, you might just find out something new about your wife or yourself. It's cool.

We played the game last night, and let me tell you, cool. I never thought a game like that would be so fun. We played for like 2 hrs. Did things we never did before, learned alot of new things. Like for example, I had to go down on her, but do it in a way she wanted me to do it, with her telling me what to do. Think of the butt plug, but instead a massaging finger. Oh boy she went nuts. Crazy.

So my point is, talk talk talk and take a chance while in bed at night, bring it up. Tell her with respect and love. If she loves you, she'll take the chance because she even wanted to buy me a masterbator for when she needed a couples days break or on her cycle. Incredible.

[scoutniagara]

I just returned from a 16-day trip away from my wife. I took my Spread Eagle Brew with me and it pleasured me till I could return to my wife's loving..... Next time, I think I'll pack it in my carry-on and see what happens with TSA. lol ...it looks like a beer can.

[fred.light52]

Maybe wives feel threatened that the husband can feel good without her. Sounds like insecurity to me...