I'm an adult virgin female waiting to have intercourse via long term boyfriend or husband but i am undecided about waiting for outercourse(handjob,mutual masterbation ,sex toys-dildo ,bdsm and breast intercourse).well, I don't have a man in my life and i want to engage in outercourse with people.Should i look for a sex teacher/surrogate online??It doesn't matter to me if the teacher is a man or woman,i just want to learn.
Sat, 10/13/2007 - 20:28
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sex teacher
Find a friend or forget it. This cannot be serious.
i wish i had friends in my area to help me out but the friends that want to help me lives outside of my state.People tell me to use craigslist
from what i have learnt from this site i think you should go out a date some people to see if you click with them. if you do then you can take it to the next level.
I don't have luck dating because most men want casual intercourse.I wish i had a long term boyfriend to practice outercourse but i don't
[quote=virginchick;195985]I don't have luck dating because most men want casual intercourse.I wish i had a long term boyfriend to practice outercourse but i don't[/quote]Why not shut the computer off and go out and meet men? Late 30's and never had a LTR with a man? Then asking questions about bi-sexual female experiences? Doll, get out and get a life. Go to the local gym or something similar and meet people; men. Casual outer-course? In your late 30's a guy will laugh if you ask about that one, especially when you are "saving yourself" for Mr. Right or Mr. LTR, or Spouse. Intercourse only w/intimacy? So what makes this different? Your logic makes no sense...as I said shut cyberland off and get out.
[QUOTE=sera300;195987]Why not shut the computer off and go out and meet men? Late 30's and never had a LTR with a man? Then asking questions about bi-sexual female experiences? Doll, get out and get a life. Go to the local gym or something similar and meet people; men. Casual outer-course? In your late 30's a guy will laugh if you ask about that one, especially when you are "saving yourself" for Mr. Right or Mr. LTR, or Spouse. Intercourse only w/intimacy? So what makes this different? Your logic makes no sense...as I said shut cyberland off and get out.[/QUOTE]
Sera300 ,
Can we please keep on topic and not go on a personal sideshow because the issue isn't a computer,the question is about sex teacher. I know some nonvirgins want to stereotype all virgins but please do not use that here.I see nonvirgins asking the same question online like i am but without the attitude.
I don't know what's the problem is here but ever scent i've join this board today, i've been feeling unwelcome vibes from Brandye and now you Sera just because i'm a virgin asking innocent question like everybody else on this board.Sera and Brandye, this is not about your personal logic issue against virigins but it's about staying on topic and answering the questions.Are we going to talk about sex teachers or are we going to the circus?I'm moving on to the sex teacher topic and let me know when the circus is over.
[quote=virginchick;195996]Sera300 ,
Can we please keep on topic and not go on a personal sideshow because the issue isn't a computer,the question is about sex teacher. I know some nonvirgins want to stereotype all virgins but please do not use that here.I see nonvirgins asking the same question online like i am but without the attitude.
I don't know what's the problem is here but ever scent i've join this board today, i've been feeling unwelcome vibes from Brandye and now you Sera just because i'm a virgin asking innocent question like everybody else on this board.Sera and Brandye, this is not about your personal logic issue against virigins but it's about staying on topic and answering the questions.Are we going to talk about sex teachers or are we going to the circus?I'm moving on to the sex teacher topic and let me know when the circus is over.[/quote]If you ask a question, regardless of your intent, expect an honest & objective opinion. If you feel you are being bombarded; you are taking opinions personally. Ask & you will get an answer. My point is; you are a late 30 y/o woman; rise to the level required for an emotionally mature woman. Your posts do not "add up" rather appear as a lure technique. Gut feel & professional thoughts.
If you believe I am being too blunt; I am sharing personal experiences. A man your age (late 30's) will either run for the hills or will seek to take advantage of your "innocence". Sex teachers? No such thing unless you hire a professional male escort or seek a younger man in the 18-20 y/o range.
In all honesty, given your posts you have chosen to turn this into a personal sideshow/circus. You said you were bullied in another post via Internet individual; thus, my reason for saying shut it off. Get out in the world and you may find a man willing to assist. A woman can ask for nearly any sex act she wishes, she holds the power for a "bootie call". How far you take it is your choice.
[QUOTE=Brandye;195978]Find a friend or forget it. This cannot be serious.[/QUOTE]100% agreed.
Victim mentality and naive.
My thoughts too. Especially seeking a surrogate/teacher on-line. Leading.
I suppose that his may sound hypocrital advice to give considering that this is a sex advice site...
But many of us never had teachers to turn to during our first encounters. Much of the knowledge gained was from experience.
You would probably be best starting off with younger guys. Their lack of experience will more likely translate into them being satisified with whatever you are willing to offer.
You can study all you want for that drivers test, but time behind the wheel is going to make you a better, more confident driver.
The ONLY real way to learn "how to do it" is to get out there and DO IT!
There is sufficient information already posted on this site to get yourself properly prepared. Your ignorance is your "reward" for your "virtue".
You have no excuse.
So wait let me get this straight, you dont have any friends in your state? or just ones that are willing.
Craig's List? No. Other online dating services? No.
Whether you live in the back hills, farmlands of mid-America, a rural area, small town, or large city, there are ways to become connected to other people.
* Check your local or area newspaper for Personal Ads.
* Volunteer your time with some organization where there will likely be some men. Even if there are none, there are people with whom you can establish a network--
* Tell family and friends that you want to date and enlist their help in finding a guy from among their acquaintances.
* Join a social club or a sports organization in which guys participate.
If you want to find a guy, you have to be seen in order to be "available".
Enlisting family and friedns might work.
But outercourse without intercourse?
-from The Economist a letter from Scott in Fairfax, VA
"The Dating Game
SIR- I found your article on the fashion for purity in America to be, well, quaint. As an evangelical Christian man who, in keeping with his religious convictions, has remained chaste before marriage into his 40's, my experience with women, including Christian women, has been that they care not one jot about pairing with a spouse who is chaste. In fact, I have had a few instances where a chaste woman actually preferred a fellow to have a resume', especially if he was a little older. It does not mean that an otherwise attractive buckaroo is taken out of the rodeo, but being chaste does not appear to move one from the runner-up category to the leader board. Christian guys go down in flames in the proverbial dating dogfight. Until women care about their partner being chaste and use it as a criterion to select a spouse the concept of chastity will remain drivel, fantasy, and wishful thinking."
Can the same be said for women? I think it SHOULD be.