Excuse me - you're 20 and you're typing like this?

Anyway - you need to CHILL and get yourself a new boyfriend -one with some skill and experience. THAT's why the sex was better with the other guys - they knew what they were doing.

Point 1 - it is NOT cheating because you're not married. Period. Get over this idea right at the start.

Point 2 - if you don't like/want/know how to do something - SAY so. It is far too late to be shy once you're naked.

Point 3 - if you're not happy, then you're going to have to coach the man and do some work - accept it. Your orgasms are you responsibility - he only assists. Your happiness is up to you. Your emotions are your problem, not his.

Finally -
If you study up on sex by reading the various articles and threads on this site, you will learn more about sex than most people of your age.

Do it!!

1. Communicate
2. Don't blame it on the boys. Partners matter, yes, but it's up to you to show them what you'd like.

Sorry, but this seems contrived; a figment of an adolescent imagination; too much alcohol involved. Does ANY woman actually think like this? And many men do not last three minutes, let alone getting up that frequently for a break. This is difficult to take seriously.

I'm sorry but I truly thought the same as Brandye when I read this.

Ahem: yes there are men who really do need frequent breaks - sufferers from Premature Ejaculation, for example - in order to keep having an orgasm. The frequent breaks do tend to ruin any chance for her to have an orgasm but that's not what concerns him.

Either she takes control or she gets a new boyfriend.

She could just toss the whole Cathoilic thing out the window and just go out there and enjoy herself (responsibly of course) and only worry about finding a spouse after she's gotten some education under her belt.

Life is to short to have bad sex!

[QUOTE=caramelRell;252120]i just lost my virginity at 20 yrs old in october [its a catholic thing]

i cheated on my bf after my birthday with tone, and after that we broke up and i had sex a fourth time with my best friend Ray.[/QUOTE]

Is it a "Catholic thing" to "cheat" and have sex with other people?

[quote]the first time was horrible [alcohol induced] the 2nd and time was with my bf hes 23 and it wasnt good at all we only did it missionary i told him i was too drunk to ride..but i really didnt know how.[/quote]

I know many Catholics like to drink so I guess this is a "Catholic thing" also.

Why drink or take drugs before having sex? Why not join the vast majority of humanity and learn to enjoy the experiences naturally and with full mental alertness?

Please read this article:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

It is unrealistic to believe that a couple's first time will go without a hitch or glitch--problem free. As the article goes on to explain, the same holds true for experienced people who are having sex together for the first time or two.

When learning to ride a bicycle, did you do so without wobbling and falling several times? How long did it take you to feel confident behind the wheel of a car, or, to accomplish any other new activity?

[quote]i cheated on my bf after my birthday[/quote]

Point 1 - I understand that you had sex with someone else while seeing your boyfriend; however, as explained, it is only "cheating" when you break a contract or marriage vow. Unless and until you have a legal document, anybody is free to date as many other people at a time as s/he wants. This is part of what dating is all about. This is also a good reason not to be in an exclusive relationship until you are ready to become married. Until then you can date as many people as you want even if seeing one person more than the others. Please learn more about this by reading up on how to go about dating people. There is an article in the Index.

Exclusivity vs. Dating Around

[quote]idk if its because hes longer but when he went deep it was amazing.we pretty much did it missionary and with my legs over his shoulders and he taught me how to ride and perform oral sex.[/quote]

More than size, your enjoyment probably came about as a result of experience, the technique he has acquired, and the position you used.

If you are interested in learning more about oral stimulation and other aspects of making love and having sex, please read the articles listed in the Index located near the top of the main screen. These articles were written to help increase knowledge, as well as technique, and, to make each person a better more skillful lover.

[quote]when me and my bf got back together we had sex again missionary he took a stamina pill lasted a little longer.[hes a little more than chubby and has to get up every 2 or 3 mins for a break][/quote]

If your boyfriend wants to improve his stamina, rather than take some dubious pill, I recommend that he do a set of push ups and walk for half an hour daily.

[quote]i finaly got on top and he was going crazy and literaly threw me off of him so he wouldnt cum.[/quote]

As for lasting longer, please read the article about learning how to do this. There is the Squeeze technique and an exercise method that the two of you can learn to do and perfect. Both are better than being thrown off! so he wouldn't climax.

[quote]unfortunately i didn feel anything a little bit of clit stimulation when i arched my back and leaned forward but nothing like when i was with ray or tone idk why.[/quote]

The Woman Superior/Cowgirl position is one of the few that provides the most contact and thus stimulation for women. That your partner is "a little more than chubby" might very well limit how much friction you are able to acquire from your limited stroking movements.

What most knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lovers will do for the majority of positions is to reach around and finger the vulva and clitoris while stroking. Try this approach. It may very well be that the two of you will have to use a different position such as reclining on your sides facing each other at an angle in order to have better contact and more friction. Have a look at the many illustrations and animated sexual positions on the site's Home page.

[quote]plz help the sex is so bad i dnt even let him give me oral sex because i jus dnt wanna be disapointed and deffinately wont perform it on him jus because i have to do all the work now yes i referred to it as work because its no fun to have to fake it.[/quote]

How to you expect to acquire experience and to become better and more accomplished as a lover if you do not practice? It is one thing to have acquired knowledge, yet quite another learning to apply the information you have gathered and as a result, become better.

Your expectations are unrealistic. Sex is serious business yet neither you nor your partner should take it so seriously that you do not have fun in the process. Relax, explore, and learn together. Please keep in mind that making love or having sex is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other--in partnership.

Please begin by reading each of the articles listed in the Index and then discussing what you have learned. (As I tell my new dance students: Do not go to a dance to "dance"; rather, go to a dance to "practice". Doing the latter removes the angst and expectations of perfection. Practicing means one or the other of you do not have to be "perfect". Practicing sets up a more relaxing atmosphere, allowing you the opportunity to make mistakes, not have everything go as hoped, yet all the while becoming better and more accomplished.)

Please read the article on providing each other verbal and non-verbal communication as well as feedback on how each of you is responding to the kisses and caresses of the other and for what you need now/next. None of us are mind readers, so we need and benefit from what we learn during a make out session.

If you do not give each other the opportunity to practice performing oral sex and/or manual stimulation, how in God's name to you expect each of you to acquire the skill. You do not get it exclusively out of a book! It takes hands on or lips on experience! It all goes back to what I was saying about learning any new skill like riding a bike. It takes practice! Now! Go Practice, over and over.

Lastly: As for faking it: Never, never, ever, fake an orgasm. Each person is responsible for his/her own orgasm. All any of us can hope for is to help our partner achieve them. If you know an orgasm is not going to happen, there are other ways of communicating your pleasure and enjoyment with the entire experience. If he is not doing what you need in order to build your excitement and to trigger an orgasm, then communicate your needs to him. All this and more are explained in the many articles listed in the Index.

I hope this is of help. After the two of you do your reading assignments, and have some discussions, please do not hesitate to ask questions.

-doc

time to grown up and stop snorting the sugar cane:o

[QUOTE=caramelRell;252120]when me and my bf got back together we had sex again missionary he took a stamina pill lasted a little longer.[hes a little more than chubby and has to get up every 2 or 3 mins for a break][/QUOTE]
He's only 23 but takes stamina pills and needs to get up every 2 or 3 minutes for a break because he's chubby?Just how chubby can he be? No stamina at 23, is he ill? I'm 45, overweight and can go and go for hours.
[QUOTE=caramelRell;252120]i finaly got on top and he was going crazy and literaly threw me off of him so he wouldnt cum...[/QUOTE]

While admittedly this may possibly come across as ED, I'm puzzled how the OP can manage to sit astride him at all if he is as chubby as the previous phrase made him sound.

This is an example of why I'm wondering how genuine the post was.

This guy certainly has his issues but that does not mean she's faking this.