Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for about a month now. Im 17 and she was my first. She has told me that I am the first guy she has been with to give her an orgasm, i can only do it fingering her. I have yet to get her to peak in bed thus far. Therefore, we have been trying different sex positions, her on top laying down, me on top, me sitting with her on top. We tried to have sex standing up but she told me i could get in because i am too tall for her. I am only about 3-4 inches taller than her. I saw a position on this sight where i hold her leg with my arm. will this allow me to have sex with her standing. thank you.
Wed, 04/18/2007 - 02:51
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Sex Standing Up
This one??
I mean no one here can say for sure if it'll work.. you'll just have to try and see.
I personally couldn't every really get the hang of standing positions.
My fav is me on my back... my bum at the edge of the bed... and the guy stand/kneel between my legs.
It gives good access for the girl or guy to massage the clit... and boob play.
I can't orgasm usually from penetration alone... I need clit stimulation.
i think from what you are saying is you are thanking us for the position. if so your welcome..
anyhow as for sex standing up you could try doggy standing up. and no as you describe you are not too tall for that... just lean her over onto the bed with her legs slightly apart.
thought if u were looking for u both to be standing upright then from what you have described you have already found a position for this.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;175273]
I mean no one here can say for sure if it'll work.. you'll just have to try and see.
I personally couldn't every really get the hang of standing positions.
My fav is me on my back... my bum at the edge of the bed... and the guy stand/kneel between my legs.
It gives good access for the girl or guy to massage the clit... and boob play.
I can't orgasm usually from penetration alone... I need clit stimulation.[/QUOTE]
Yes, thats the one i mean, i will try it and hopefully it will work. my girlfriend is more experienced than i am she has been with 2 other guys, i dont know how much but that was before me and i dont care. she is my first though and we have not given the other an orgasm in sex yet. she has not given me an orgasm at all but im not worried and it will come in time. i know she is getting worried or maybe feels like she needs to but i assure her there is no rush. i know i need to get better but it seems like she wont ever please me in sex because it feels good, just not orgasm good. i do not like condoms. she said she wants to go on birth control because it is safer, will i feel more in sex without a condom? also are there any other positions that you could share with me that would really please her because i love giving my girl orgasms, im the only one who ever has given her orgasms so it is fun for me to give it to her, it is my gift to her. in other words i would love to please her in bed but also want to be pleased eventually.
Any reason why you think you haven't orgasmed at all yet?
When she gives you hand jobs or oral... does it not feel good?
Are you still maybe nervous a little and can't seem to relax?
Sometimes when people are having sex... they are SOO focused on getting the other person off... or getting off in general... they aren't able to relax and just enjoy. Thinking about it too hard or wondering if it'll happen tends to make it NOT happen.
Also, for guys who have always just been used to how they masturbate to get off.. have a hard time orgasming during sex. The vagina will no way be able to grip the penis as tight as your hand can...nor usually you can't go as fast at a constant rate as your hand can. You have to get used to how the vagina feels and condition yourself to cum that way.
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Good luck!!
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;175406]Any reason why you think you haven't orgasmed at all yet?
When she gives you hand jobs or oral... does it not feel good?
Are you still maybe nervous a little and can't seem to relax?
Sometimes when people are having sex... they are SOO focused on getting the other person off... or getting off in general... they aren't able to relax and just enjoy. Thinking about it too hard or wondering if it'll happen tends to make it NOT happen.
Also, for guys who have always just been used to how they masturbate to get off.. have a hard time orgasming during sex. The vagina will no way be able to grip the penis as tight as your hand can...nor usually you can't go as fast at a constant rate as your hand can. You have to get used to how the vagina feels and condition yourself to cum that way.
Good luck!![/QUOTE]
I understant where you are coming from when you tell me that you can get focused on your partner and lose your own pleasure, when i finger my girl her breathing and body language turns me on and gets me going but also i must focus on her needs and i tend to soften up. She has gotten better at making me hard as the first few times, about 3 times we tried to have sex i failed on her and softened up. so she can make me hard now when she needs to she just seemed (until recently) to be frustrated when giving me handjobs. she got close to being close, if you can understand in giving me an orgasm. so that means a lot to me. I felt the feeling of an orgasm coming on but i didnt tell her not to stop and such because i got pre occupied with sex on my mind and i wish i did not. Anyways, after getting through my going soft problem, which was because of uncomfort and nerves i stopped masturbating almost altogether (barring a few urges now and then, twice a month maybe, Im proud) to make sure i was always sensitive and ready to go.
Try everthing, it can be very fun ;). Try every position on this site and try to make up your own in your head, although that might take a while :p
Im also aware that it might be easier to give her an orgasm in sex if i give her an orgasm in foreplay, is this correct?
[QUOTE=VirginNoMore;175426]Im also aware that it might be easier to give her an orgasm in sex if i give her an orgasm in foreplay, is this correct?[/QUOTE]
I dunno?
For me if my b/f gives me an orgasm during oral foreplay.. it's not likely I can orgasm again... from sex or anything. Or the occasions I do... it's harder for me.
Other woman might be able to have orgasm after orgasm.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;175439]I dunno?
For me if my b/f gives me an orgasm during oral foreplay.. it's not likely I can orgasm again... from sex or anything. Or the occasions I do... it's harder for me.
Other woman might be able to have orgasm after orgasm.[/QUOTE]
So i must have this confused with "best sex" because numerous times i have read that a womans best sex can come with a little time after having an orgasm. so just because i dont give her an orgasm in sex yet doesnt mean that its not good? i still make sure that i keep up with pleasing her when i can which is when i finger her, i have become quite good at it actually. so i still make sure i please her as often as possible, i know orgasms feel really good to the reciever so that is my gift for her.
About the original topic of standing sex, my gf and I have never really got it to work either... Ok if she is doggie on the bed, or lying on the bed with me standing, but with us both standing we seem to never be able to get the right angle. Is it regarded as a difficult position to do?
[QUOTE=arutha;175788]About the original topic of standing sex, my gf and I have never really got it to work either... Ok if she is doggie on the bed, or lying on the bed with me standing, but with us both standing we seem to never be able to get the right angle. Is it regarded as a difficult position to do?[/QUOTE]
Pretty damn difficult for me and her because we tried it again for the 3rd and likely last time last night. I cant find a good angle either, i tried holding her leg up. of the 3 times we tried i got in once moved a bit tried getting in the motions and fell out real easy.
Off the topic i have a question, you had sex with her laying and you standing on a bed, is there a good way for her to be laying and me standing/on my knees if i have a futon? its in between knee hight and standing hight so it seems tricky, i havent tried or suggessted it yet but i would like to learn about it before i bring it up with her. it seems like an easy position to have sex in with a lot of movability to hopefully give her an orgasm.
I have a futon too.. If it is pretty low, you can have her on her hands and knees (like doggie) so she will be raised off the bed a decent amount. I just get as close to the bed as I can then bend my knees to lower myself. The trick seems to be getting her right on the edge of the bed if shes on her back, like her ass almost hanging off it. Or you can try leaning over her, hold yourself up with your hands either side of her. That makes you able to kiss her too.
Me and my gf have sex standing up in the shower. She is 5'2" and I'm 6'1". It works pretty good when she stands on the edge of the shower and then I bend a little to get it in. After that its no problem.
[QUOTE=arutha;175958]I have a futon too.. If it is pretty low, you can have her on her hands and knees (like doggie) so she will be raised off the bed a decent amount. I just get as close to the bed as I can then bend my knees to lower myself. The trick seems to be getting her right on the edge of the bed if shes on her back, like her ass almost hanging off it. Or you can try leaning over her, hold yourself up with your hands either side of her. That makes you able to kiss her too.[/QUOTE]
yeah we havent had sex enough for us to be trying something as drastic as doggie. im comfortable with her but im just trying to slightly change positions and ease into different things, i just feel it would be too soon. but likely next time i will try out something on the futon, we usually have sex on the floor because of the noise. it seems like if i get her on a bed/futon and im standing/on my knees than i can give it to her better.
On the floor? Wow, it is a hell of a lot more comfortable on a bed lol. What noise do you get? Squeeking? Try using some of that lubricant oil stuff on the noisy bits to make it quieter. Or just go slower and gentler, that tends to make a lot less noise.
[QUOTE=devrog;176112]Me and my gf have sex standing up in the shower. She is 5'2" and I'm 6'1". It works pretty good when she stands on the edge of the shower and then I bend a little to get it in. After that its no problem.[/QUOTE]
so she is standing on something so she is a bit taller?
[quote=VirginNoMore;176185]so she is standing on something so she is a bit taller?[/quote]
It helps if you are a bit taller then her. You have to scoop your pelvis under her and it works well if she keeps one leg bent and up. It's easier if she is up against a wall. If she is very short, you can also have her put legs around your hips (wrap them around) and you support her bottom, holding her up. And her arms around your neck--like a reverse piggy back ride. She needs to be able to tilt her pelvis to meet against you. It just takes some work. Practice!
[QUOTE=VirginNoMore;176185]so she is standing on something so she is a bit taller?[/QUOTE]
She puts one leg on the edge of the shower and bends forward a little. This helps to line everything up. Then I bend my knees a little so I am at a good angle.