My new boyfriend and I have been having a little difficulties lately behind the bedroom. I've been having troubles getting wet initially. Putting it in can be a challenge (part of this has to do with the fact that he's well endowed), but he mentioned to me that it can actually be painful if we're unable to get it in easily. Once it is in, and we've been going at it for a minute or so, I'm soaked.
Now I do know what gets me going...BIG time. Someone who loooves to eat out. If someone doesn't enjoy it, but will do it....goes down, if anything it's more of a turn off. And unfortunatly he isn't into it so much. (Not because of personal hygene or anything like that). He just isn't into it.
I need to learn what turns me on!!!! Because yes, kissing my neck, touching my body, and what not feels good, but it doesn't rev me right up. Nothing compares to the feeling of a tongue running between your thighs...mmmm.....
Ladies, can you share some of your turn ons. Men, can you share what you do that get's your lady going big time???
As a footnote, we did buy some lube, and have used it...but I definatly prefer Au Natural...but if nothing works, the good ol KY will have to do I guess!!
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You should be(come) very wet prior to engaging in intercourse. How, is mostly a function of two things:
T#1: An emotional interest and involvement with your partner so that there are the proverbial "sparks" and the pheromones fly between you.
T#2: Making out no less than half an hour prior to moving on to Foreplay and ultimately intercourse if this is on the menu.
The whole purpose of making out (Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, before ever getting to the Foreplay stage that should also include all of the above) is to get your "motor" running and become very aroused. If the two of you are not devoting much if any time to all this kissing, hugging, caressing, and titillating each others skin and nervous systems then you are quite literally placing the cart before the horse.
What will turn you on? Having an emotional connection with a particular fella. Specifically, you will have to do some exploration on your own for what activities physically turn you on. Masturbate, fantasize, and explore.
As for lube, why do you think they make the stuff? To be used, primarily. Lather his penis or condom and place an ample amount around the vaginal opening--even if you are properly turned on before hand. Please think of these products as an adjunct to your au-natural talents, never as a disruption. BTW, try Astroglide if it is available in stores in your area. K-Y is OK.
Please see the two sticky posts entitled The Program and Body Worship.