long story.. my boyfriends moving to the other side of the country in 5 months and we've been going out for a year and some change. we've never had sex before and i want to.. (as soon as i get on birth control) but i know that once we have sex, i'm gonna feel so attached to him. this is gonna hurt in the long run, since he's leaving and all, but everytime i think of him losing his virginity to anyone else but me, i get so pissed off. do you think it would a bad idea to have sex with him before he leaves? i know the decision is really up to me, but.. i really need help on this. 
Mon, 11/07/2005 - 21:16
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Sex before he leaves?
This is something I can help with!! lol. My boyfriend came to see me for 25 days this summer. At the end of the 25 days, he was going back home and we wouldn't be coming back for up to a year (we've since arranged a 10 day period in which we can get back together in Jan.. but thats beside the point)
anyways, I went through the same thing you did. I didn't know wether I wanted to have sex with him or not. But, I thought I might regret it if I didn't. We did end up having sex, and I have absolutly no regrets. Things happen really quickly. One thing leads to another, and before you know it.. youre having sex. If you do decide to have sex with him, make sure you're wel protected!!!!!!! I can't stress that enough!! I got terrifyed after he left (my period was 5 days late)
Either way you decide to go.. It's your choice. No one but you can decide what to do. Sorry I cant help any more.. but that was my experience... Good luck with your decision. Just do what feels right!
shadowy
If you are fifteen and will never see him again, there is one answer; if you are 35 and you will be jetting back and forth, the answer is quite different.
No, you don't want to open that can of worms. Not if you can help it.
my advice is, do what you really think is right deep down in your heart. I think you know what the right thing to do, or not to do is, and you need to go with that.