Just judging from how my gf reacts during foreplay and sex, I'd say its actually better for women than men. All we have really is the penis, the entire female body is highly sensitive and many parts can cause a high level of arousal, plus there is both the clitoris and the g-spot...
well how could that be?? He's 34 yrs old and she's 19...she's been told on this board that a dude that is 34 should be very experienced and know what he's doing??:cool: ...
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU;159035]well how could that be?? He's 34 yrs old and she's 19...she's been told on this board that a dude that is 34 should be very experienced and know what he's doing??:cool: ...[/QUOTE]
not if he was a 34 year old virgin.
ok. basically some have what they say 'natural talent' and others are 'lacking in talent' basically for example if you were playing basketball.. some would be superstars and some would never quite get the hang of it. sex is sort of similar. Not everyone can be good at having sex.
Hey everyone, I haven't done it with my boyfriend. I am still a virgin by the way. And he's not a virgin. He's has multiple girlfriends and he's experienced. Believe me when I tell you that.
[QUOTE=col90;159114]Hey everyone, I haven't done it with my boyfriend. I am still a virgin by the way. And he's not a virgin. He's has multiple girlfriends and he's experienced. Believe me when I tell you that.[/QUOTE]
I am more then confused about your posts...as well as your relationship with this guy. Why would you even think about losing your virginity to some guy that has multiple girlfriends? If he really cared about you and wanted to be with you then he wouldn't have any other girls. He would be all about you.
Are you being pressured by this guy for sex? Don't do it unless you are sure that this situation is what you want. If he isn't all about you now sleeping with him isn't going to change that. Step back and look at your relationship with him. Try to see if it really is what you think it is.
You don't have to have sex with him or anyone that is not going to respect you enough to only be with you.
"Supposed to" be pleasurable is a hard question to answer. Sex definitely has the potential to be very pleasurable for women as well as men, but it often is not done with female pleasure in mind, or the girl does not communicate her needs as much as the guy does, or she has hangups which inhibit her enjoyment of sex. The first time need not be painful - mine felt great. I really enjoy sex.
One reason that women often end up not enjoying sex as much as men do is because, from puberty, boys masturbate and learn to enjoy sexual sensations and reach orgasm. This isn't always true for girls. So many girls go into their first sexual experiences without having explored masturbation or ever reached orgasm before, and then they are kinda surprised that sex isn't great for them and think that it's just not all it's cracked up to be. But... how many guys do you think go into their first sexual experiences without having orgasmed yet? I'd venture to guess none. Then, it can be a vicious cycle, because from this lackluster first impression of sex, girls often just aren't that excited about the notion anymore, whereas the male who is already orgasmic will usually reach orgasm pretty easily from his first encounter on.
[QUOTE=toyfairy;159141]Why would you even think about losing your virginity to some guy that has multiple girlfriends?[/QUOTE]
The OP said, "He's has multiple girlfriends," which is either bad grammar or, more likely, a simple typing error.
I suspect she meant, "He's had multiple girlfriends." If you read it that way (rather than "He has multiple girlfriends"), it make more sense.
[QUOTE=browneyedgirl;159153]One reason that women often end up not enjoying sex as much as men do is because .... [/QUOTE]
I don't know if this is "scientifically" verifiable or anything, but I think it's right.
[QUOTE=NizeGie;159185]The OP said, "He's has multiple girlfriends," which is either bad grammar or, more likely, a simple typing error.
I suspect she meant, "He's had multiple girlfriends." If you read it that way (rather than "He has multiple girlfriends"), it make more sense.
I think.[/QUOTE]
I see that now. I made a quick jump to reply to this post and based on what things I have read posted from her before. I apologize not for what I said but for not catching that typing error and jumping to conclusions.
I still want to know if she is being pressured by this guy for sex. I also think that she still should really take time to figure out if this is the guy she really wants to give it up to before she jumps in without caution.
This situation smells fishy to me...but it could be because I know a guy who does the things that I am suspecting this guy is doing. I just want her to be extra cautious before throwing her virginity at this "older man".
[QUOTE=NizeGie;159186]I don't know if this is "scientifically" verifiable or anything, but I think it's right.[/QUOTE]
:) Yeah, well, I'm not a scientist or anything, but this is my hypothesis. I do think you could varify by science that women don't orgasm NEARLY as much as men do from sex (only 25% can orgasm from sex alone, without additional clit stimulation), and the fact that girls do not start masturbating (on average, of course there are exceptions) until much later than boys do, if at all. I think it makes sense that these would be correlated, but I have no data for that.
no, this man does not pressure me for sex. Of course, he'd like us to have it, it's obvious though. When we kiss well he tries to go further and all. But it's not like he's gonna rape me to get what he wants if you know what I mean.
Well, I know sometimes he gets on top of me with his boxers on, he hold me down and he starts to rub his penis on me. I am in underwear because I sleep in underwears. And he gets erects and start rubbing more you know near my vagina. And it's a little weird and scary... I have to tell him to stop
depends on the couple or so... yes it should be pleasurable for both if done correctly.
[QUOTE=col90;158660]Is sex supposed to feel as pleasurable for a women as for a man ???[/QUOTE]
It depends on what you mean by "supposed to."
Normatively - Yeah, it should. Seems fair.
Descriptively - You'll have to find someone who's been both a man and a woman and see what he/she has to say on the subject.
Just judging from how my gf reacts during foreplay and sex, I'd say its actually better for women than men. All we have really is the penis, the entire female body is highly sensitive and many parts can cause a high level of arousal, plus there is both the clitoris and the g-spot...
col90 he's not doing it right. Sorry, but there it is. Sex is TREMENDOUSLY PLEASUREABLE for both women and men.
well how could that be?? He's 34 yrs old and she's 19...she's been told on this board that a dude that is 34 should be very experienced and know what he's doing??:cool: ...
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU;159035]well how could that be?? He's 34 yrs old and she's 19...she's been told on this board that a dude that is 34 should be very experienced and know what he's doing??:cool: ...[/QUOTE]
not if he was a 34 year old virgin.
ok. basically some have what they say 'natural talent' and others are 'lacking in talent' basically for example if you were playing basketball.. some would be superstars and some would never quite get the hang of it. sex is sort of similar. Not everyone can be good at having sex.
Well I'm SO HAPPY I'm wasn't gifted for basketball !! ROFLMAO
Hey everyone, I haven't done it with my boyfriend. I am still a virgin by the way. And he's not a virgin. He's has multiple girlfriends and he's experienced. Believe me when I tell you that.
posted twice ! sorry
Then you wouldn't know, col90 - but yes sex is GREAT for women as well as men, if not more so.
[QUOTE=col90;159114]Hey everyone, I haven't done it with my boyfriend. I am still a virgin by the way. And he's not a virgin. He's has multiple girlfriends and he's experienced. Believe me when I tell you that.[/QUOTE]
I am more then confused about your posts...as well as your relationship with this guy. Why would you even think about losing your virginity to some guy that has multiple girlfriends? If he really cared about you and wanted to be with you then he wouldn't have any other girls. He would be all about you.
Are you being pressured by this guy for sex? Don't do it unless you are sure that this situation is what you want. If he isn't all about you now sleeping with him isn't going to change that. Step back and look at your relationship with him. Try to see if it really is what you think it is.
You don't have to have sex with him or anyone that is not going to respect you enough to only be with you.
"Supposed to" be pleasurable is a hard question to answer. Sex definitely has the potential to be very pleasurable for women as well as men, but it often is not done with female pleasure in mind, or the girl does not communicate her needs as much as the guy does, or she has hangups which inhibit her enjoyment of sex. The first time need not be painful - mine felt great. I really enjoy sex.
One reason that women often end up not enjoying sex as much as men do is because, from puberty, boys masturbate and learn to enjoy sexual sensations and reach orgasm. This isn't always true for girls. So many girls go into their first sexual experiences without having explored masturbation or ever reached orgasm before, and then they are kinda surprised that sex isn't great for them and think that it's just not all it's cracked up to be. But... how many guys do you think go into their first sexual experiences without having orgasmed yet? I'd venture to guess none. Then, it can be a vicious cycle, because from this lackluster first impression of sex, girls often just aren't that excited about the notion anymore, whereas the male who is already orgasmic will usually reach orgasm pretty easily from his first encounter on.
[QUOTE=toyfairy;159141]Why would you even think about losing your virginity to some guy that has multiple girlfriends?[/QUOTE]
The OP said, "He's has multiple girlfriends," which is either bad grammar or, more likely, a simple typing error.
I suspect she meant, "He's had multiple girlfriends." If you read it that way (rather than "He has multiple girlfriends"), it make more sense.
I think.
[QUOTE=browneyedgirl;159153]One reason that women often end up not enjoying sex as much as men do is because .... [/QUOTE]
I don't know if this is "scientifically" verifiable or anything, but I think it's right.
[QUOTE=NizeGie;159185]The OP said, "He's has multiple girlfriends," which is either bad grammar or, more likely, a simple typing error.
I suspect she meant, "He's had multiple girlfriends." If you read it that way (rather than "He has multiple girlfriends"), it make more sense.
I think.[/QUOTE]
I see that now. I made a quick jump to reply to this post and based on what things I have read posted from her before. I apologize not for what I said but for not catching that typing error and jumping to conclusions.
I still want to know if she is being pressured by this guy for sex. I also think that she still should really take time to figure out if this is the guy she really wants to give it up to before she jumps in without caution.
This situation smells fishy to me...but it could be because I know a guy who does the things that I am suspecting this guy is doing. I just want her to be extra cautious before throwing her virginity at this "older man".
[QUOTE=NizeGie;159186]I don't know if this is "scientifically" verifiable or anything, but I think it's right.[/QUOTE]
:) Yeah, well, I'm not a scientist or anything, but this is my hypothesis. I do think you could varify by science that women don't orgasm NEARLY as much as men do from sex (only 25% can orgasm from sex alone, without additional clit stimulation), and the fact that girls do not start masturbating (on average, of course there are exceptions) until much later than boys do, if at all. I think it makes sense that these would be correlated, but I have no data for that.
Toyfairy:
no, this man does not pressure me for sex. Of course, he'd like us to have it, it's obvious though. When we kiss well he tries to go further and all. But it's not like he's gonna rape me to get what he wants if you know what I mean.
He doesn't have to force you to be pressuring you. Bo one said anything about rape. Just be careful.
Well, I know sometimes he gets on top of me with his boxers on, he hold me down and he starts to rub his penis on me. I am in underwear because I sleep in underwears. And he gets erects and start rubbing more you know near my vagina. And it's a little weird and scary... I have to tell him to stop