Yeah she's just wanting to make sure the time is right...and she feels comfortable.
I mean you've only been going out for 2 months!
Plus, if she isn't even comfortable yet to touch your penis...then its safe to say she isn't ready for sex.
[QUOTE=Serious_69;178872]Well Ive bene dating this girl for around 2 months now and I ask her to have sex but she says she doesnt want to get hurt or regret it. I tell her im not going anywhere and she says shes in a mood to have sex from time to time but its all talk at this point. When I ask her to she has pretty much no excuses or reasons to back up the fact that she says she doesnt want to get hurt or regret it. She almost had sex with some next dude before, and I dont see how shell get hurt or regret it because shell let me finger her and stuff but wont give me hand or brains, not even speaking about sex..And on top of it all she says she never said she doesnt wanna do it, but then she comes in with the "i dont wanna get hurt or regret it" stuff. Any advice? Good, quick, positive advice?[/QUOTE]
She shouldn't even have to justify to you why she doesn't want sex~! Grow up sonny! you've only been going out 2 months and she's only 16! For her reasons, she wants it to be "special" and doesn't feel like giving it up to some hormonally out of control adolescent! If you are in a rush to get F*$K'ed perhaps get a different girlfriend!
...and what's more, love and its physical component are tied much more to a woman's emotions and psyche than they are to a man's. The male of the species can separate the physical components of sex from the emotional much more easily than can the female of the species. This fact of life seems to be overlooked in Sex Ed classes.
The typical male can and does masturbate frequently without benefit of a partner; can coerce, or othewise involve a partner into having sex primarily for his self indulgence; can even rub up against something like a fence post if horny enough; all with little or no emotional ties or commitments. This is not the case for the fairer gender.
That she does not express a reason or one to your satisfaction is not germane; what is is that for the time being at least, "NO" is the answer and this has to be adhered to lest you find yourself up on charges of rape.
Simple...shes obviously not ready. She has her reasons. They may be because she doesn't want to get hurt like she said or regret it. Or it may be something else.
She shouldn't have to explain herself to you...you should be able to take NO for an answer and stop pressuring her about it. When she's ready, she'll be ready.
Personally I wasn't ready till I was 22 one day...and my boyfriend waited 4 years for me to be ready. So I'm not saying this girl is going to wait that long but so what if she does. Find some other way to deal your hormones in the mean time.
If the guy wanna have sex and not having to care for the girl's feelings, he could just as well go out and buy a prostitute. Yuk. We are not guys' private sex toys unless we chooses to and we only do so when we feel respected and safe.
I don't believe she should feel neither in your company.
god its like a puzzle
please correct your grammar
and what i can understand sounds as if your trying to force her and she just doesn't want to
Yeah she's just wanting to make sure the time is right...and she feels comfortable.
I mean you've only been going out for 2 months!
Plus, if she isn't even comfortable yet to touch your penis...then its safe to say she isn't ready for sex.
[QUOTE=Serious_69;178872]Well Ive bene dating this girl for around 2 months now and I ask her to have sex but she says she doesnt want to get hurt or regret it. I tell her im not going anywhere and she says shes in a mood to have sex from time to time but its all talk at this point. When I ask her to she has pretty much no excuses or reasons to back up the fact that she says she doesnt want to get hurt or regret it. She almost had sex with some next dude before, and I dont see how shell get hurt or regret it because shell let me finger her and stuff but wont give me hand or brains, not even speaking about sex..And on top of it all she says she never said she doesnt wanna do it, but then she comes in with the "i dont wanna get hurt or regret it" stuff. Any advice? Good, quick, positive advice?[/QUOTE]
She shouldn't even have to justify to you why she doesn't want sex~! Grow up sonny! you've only been going out 2 months and she's only 16! For her reasons, she wants it to be "special" and doesn't feel like giving it up to some hormonally out of control adolescent! If you are in a rush to get F*$K'ed perhaps get a different girlfriend!
Just date her & skip the sex thing for now. Quick, simple & easy.
You want to and, therefore, she should want to. Too common an immature male reaction. She says no,; stop bugging (or begging) her.
...and what's more, love and its physical component are tied much more to a woman's emotions and psyche than they are to a man's. The male of the species can separate the physical components of sex from the emotional much more easily than can the female of the species. This fact of life seems to be overlooked in Sex Ed classes.
The typical male can and does masturbate frequently without benefit of a partner; can coerce, or othewise involve a partner into having sex primarily for his self indulgence; can even rub up against something like a fence post if horny enough; all with little or no emotional ties or commitments. This is not the case for the fairer gender.
That she does not express a reason or one to your satisfaction is not germane; what is is that for the time being at least, "NO" is the answer and this has to be adhered to lest you find yourself up on charges of rape.
Simple...shes obviously not ready. She has her reasons. They may be because she doesn't want to get hurt like she said or regret it. Or it may be something else.
She shouldn't have to explain herself to you...you should be able to take NO for an answer and stop pressuring her about it. When she's ready, she'll be ready.
Personally I wasn't ready till I was 22 one day...and my boyfriend waited 4 years for me to be ready. So I'm not saying this girl is going to wait that long but so what if she does. Find some other way to deal your hormones in the mean time.
> Find some other way to deal your hormones in the mean time.
There is more than one way HERE
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What was his last reply???
Dang deleted it so now we can't see what it says :mad:
At least HNG quoted the original.
I hope the mods leave it here because it is so exemplary of immature thought with good responses to that. Almost should be a sticky.
If the guy wanna have sex and not having to care for the girl's feelings, he could just as well go out and buy a prostitute. Yuk. We are not guys' private sex toys unless we chooses to and we only do so when we feel respected and safe.
I don't believe she should feel neither in your company.