Hello!
i just started having sex with my boyfriend. for some reason, some things feel good, but other things feel too.. intense. i have trouble getting ontop, because as soon as he's in it kinda feels so good that it hurts.
i cannot lean back or be up when im ontop, i have to lean directly ontop of him and go back and forth (very slowly at first) or it feels way too intense.
i don't know how else to describe it. i think he's hitting the gspot. i've gotten that peeing sensation, and gotten close to the big O, but the sensation becomes so intense that i have to stop and i can't focus on going forward.
what should i do?
It could be partly a time thing-its new to you and everything we do, in the bedroom or out, takes learning, practice and getting used to.
Speaking for myself, early on when it got so intense I stopped, it was kind of a 'can't let go' thing if you know what I mean. You just gotta relax and allow yourself to have it.
RELAX, BREATHE, LET THE FEELINGS PASS ON THROUGH YOU. KEEP MOVING. JUST LET IT ALL GO.
I'm yelling so you can 'hear' me. Yes, sex can be intense and isn't it wonderful!!!
But your brain is not used to this level of stimulation so it is perceiving the pleasure as pain. You have to train your brain by doing what I just bellowed to you.
Please find and read the sticky post entitled, The Program. By following, more or less, the steps outlined therein, you will be relaxed enough to enjoy the sex.
Once you have orgasmed, your brain will go - "Oh, so THAT'S what this is!" and will correctly perceive the sensations from then on.