My boyfriend and I broke 2 months due to one fight. We had been dating for 1 yr. We saw each other on Saturday night for the first time. We had a nice dinner and conversation. He stayed over and we had sex. I wanted it as well.
I haven't heard from him and it's Wed. Worried that I won't hear from him. Any advice, gentleman? Will he call? Has he lost respect?
There is a reason "they" are called "ex"...just move on...
It's kind of hard to tell your circumstances.
Who's call was it to break-up?
Who initiated contact to have dinner?
Were you two discussing getting back together (you seemed to be anxious for his call) or is he a solid EX?
Not knowing the circumstances that machine pointed out, I would have to say he probably looked at it as a fling...I mean your broken up, you got together and wound up having sex. and then he didnt call you...more than likely a fling....maybe...just maybe....hes trying to sort out issues...like his want for you two getting back together.
It was mutual to take a break because he was working too much. My idea to have dinner because I had to rteurn his stuff (which he never took back).
Talked about missing each other and he said he was working too much. I did not bring up the topic.
Thanks.
Sounds to me like it was just a fling and the fact you were already broken up just made it all the easier for him not to worry about further contact. With him working a lot and still in the same situation, nothing has changed and the sex was just part of the conversation so to speak. Time to move on if you want some type of committed relationship because he sure isn't the one for that. If you want some occassional sex, invite him for dinner again, he seems willing to jump in bed with you especially when he can then go back to his own life.
You've got to distance yourself from the ex.
The ex is a horrid monster, creeping around your subconscious, capable of bringing you down to your knees in a moment, if you let it.
Let him go, meet new people, allow yourself to become busy.
Lingering will only slow you down on your way to happiness.
[QUOTE=mars;195787]Good and valid points. I appreciate all your advice.
So one more thing, how come I still have his new tv and he said the last 2 months were hard for him (in a humble voice)?[/QUOTE]
call it "perks" ;)
Good and valid points. I appreciate all your advice.
So one more thing, how come I still have his new tv and he said the last 2 months were hard for him (in a humble voice)?
It's been known for former partners and divorced couples to have sex with the unspoken rule that the intimacy won't change anything in the end.
I too had sex with an ex (albeit half-drunkenly). At the time, we were still on the fence, debating whether to get back together after a month apart. That hot encounter was great, but untimatly a week later the decision was made that we weren't going to be together.
You may just have to accept the fact that the two of you will never be a couple again, that the fling is more or less a booty call. Not that there's anything wrong with a booty call, it's just you need to be sure to move on considering this is no longer a committed relationship.